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Where did it all go wrong?

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123Jersey · 06/08/2010 15:21

I'm sitting here wondering where did it all go wrong? What can I do differently to change? Nine years ago I was really excited about becoming a mum, and now, I just can't wait until school start again, and I can hide behind being a school run mum again. My nine year old boy is rude, cheeky, agressive to his younger sister, and to be honest, I think may be a bully at school. I feel like I've totally failed him, his sister and to be truthful, myself and my husband.

It has gotten so bad, I have found a summer day centre and booked the two of them in there for 2 days next week. When they are apart, they are great, both funny, loving and we have fun together. But the minute they are together, I just seem to be always refereeing, telling them off.

A few years agao I went to see the doctor and was given antidepressents, and they worked, so I was taken off them. 18months ago, I felt I was slipping out of control again, and returned to be told, well, they should have sorted you out last time, you probably need to see a psychologist, but here, take the minimum dose, and come back in a month. I didn't feel I could go back as she didn't believe me, so I just left it. Now I feel angry most of the time, unable to make decisions and basically like I am going around in circles.

I know you can't do anything, but it has helped just sharing how I feel.

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OhWhatNoooow · 06/08/2010 18:13

Hi there, I totally feel for you. I'm taking ADs now and it has helped immensely. Can you ask your GP to give you the regular dose again? You know yourself better than anyone. As far as the sibling rivalry stuff, have a read of the book, Siblings Without Rivalry. It has some really good advice on how to deal with their fighting.
Best of luck, hope you feel better soon..

twoisplenty · 06/08/2010 18:16

It sounds like odd advice from the GP. I would book an appointment for a different GP and ask for the regular dose of ADs. Other than that, I have sympaty for you, children can be tough, especially in the holidays. It can take all of your strength to get through six weeks. Best wishes.

123Jersey · 06/08/2010 21:10

Thanks very much for your support. I will order the book - I'm happy to take all the help I can get.

I know I must go back to the GP, or another one as you suggest twoisplenty, I just need to work up the courage.

I must admit, logging on here, downloading has given me some courage - if I can tell a supportive group of people I don't know, I might just be able to walk back in there. You don't know how much this means to me - thank you.

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123Jersey · 08/08/2010 23:28

Have decided that sobbing for 5 minutes after my initial post helped, and that I was right to book them both into the day centre, and that I am going to go back to doctor. Feeling much calmer now I have made the decision. Thanks again for your messages.

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