Both my DS's know they are adopted.
DS1 sometimes asks questions about his birth parents and I answer as honestly as I can. We have letter box contact with the birth mother but SS have stopped her letters being forwarded to us because she has started to become quite abusive with her tone
DS2 has SN and he doesnt understand the concept of another Mum and Dad.
I really would like to adopt another child but DH isnt feeling the same way
Our BM has given birth to two other children but sadly SS "forgot" that we had the boys and the children were placed elsewhere. We have contact with the other adoptive family but TBH I find it quite painful because I so wanted a big family.
That sounds really selfish but I cant help the way I feel. When I see the pictures of my DS's siblings my heart aches because they are so alike and I feel they should be here with us.
I know the other adoptive couple have since parted and inside my heart I grieve and long for those children.
The way I feel is that my DS's were denied the chance to have their siblings living and growing up with them, just because a social worker "forgot" about our DS's.
We asked for a judicial review and thankfully the adoption laws were changed, so now all excisting adopters are contacted re any further siblings needing placement....so I suppose something good came ot of the pain and heart ache we experienced.
DH is against adopting any further children because he hopes that one day our DS's will have contact with their siblings. DH feels that if this happens then the children will question as to why we wanted DS's and not them....even though it wasnt our fault that they were placed elsewhere