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Taking a 3 week old to a BBQ

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JamieJay · 04/08/2010 22:31

Hoping for some guidance from more experienced mums.

Currently overdue with first baby, friends have a big annual BBQ during the bank holiday weekend. Baby will be somewhere between 2 and 3 weeks old depending on when she turns up!!

I was planning on attending (only 10 minutes up the road) assuming I had recovered enough from the birth, baby was well and the weather was okay.

Mentioned to this to family member today who was toally gobsmacked and said I couldn't possibly go, their reason was the BBQ includes a couple of friend's bands playing in a marquee and the noise would damage baby's ears.

Admittedly the bands will be using amps and a PA so it will be loud in the marquee but I was plan on staying outside the marquee and away from excessive noise. It's a large field so plenty of space and covered areas to sit down.

Was only planning on going for an hour, probably with baby in a sling but am now worried that maybe I'm being negletful before baby has even arrived!

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tassisssss · 04/08/2010 22:33

I'd go for sure! Sounds fun. As you say, see how you're doing and how you're feeling and leave after an hour if you like.

MathsMadMummy · 04/08/2010 22:33

well I took DD to a beach BBQ when she was 13 days old. she just slept in the buggy a lot! and got cuddles from lots of people

not too sure about the noise though, that would worry me. I've heard you can get special kids ear protectors though?

SparklyJules · 04/08/2010 22:35

One of my work colleagues turned up to a BBQ last week with his wife and 6 day old baby!

Your baby will probably be asleep in her sling and perfectly happy, if you feel up to it then toddle along and show off the new addition but and if you feel tired and like sitting on the sofa then do that instead.

Hope she turns up soon!

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MmeLindt · 04/08/2010 22:37

Go for it, if you are feeling up for it.

If you are sensible and avoid the loud music, then I don't see what harm can come of it.

Wordsonascreen · 04/08/2010 22:38

dd attended her first BBQ aged 2 days

just keep away from the amps and it'll be fine

pigleychez · 04/08/2010 22:40

No, it would be fine to go... As long as you feel up to it.

My DD2 is 11 weeks now and we took her to our friends wedding at exactly 1 week old. We went, which was fine but I didnt stay too long at the evening recpetion for a few reasons, DD1 was getting tired and grumpy after a busy day ( so was I!) plus they had had a live band in the hall which was abit loud for her little ears.

DD2 got lots of fuss as did DD1 and I felt very proud showing off my new daughter

As its only up the road you can easily pop back if it gets too much. Our wedding was 50 miles away.

It can be done but obviously depends on your recovery.

cece · 04/08/2010 22:43

They are never more portable than at that age. So yes go but keep her away from the noise.

Valpollicella · 04/08/2010 22:45

If you feel upto it, then great!

Ten mins up the road...you could go all afternoon or pop in for half hour, whatever you feel like at the time.

You might be itching to go out, or wanting to stay home and sleep

Your Mama-ness will kick in re the noise and you'll be able to judge if it's too loud.

I wouldn't say no, more a 'I'll see how we are on the day', leaving all options open. And sure you're friend won't mind you saying that

Good luck and wishing you a speedy easy birth

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JamieJay · 04/08/2010 22:45

Thanks everyone - DH and I are very much of the get on with life as much as possible approach so have assumed that baby will just come with us to as many things as possible/suitable whilst she's easily portable. Was starting to wonder if I should be more cautious with a newborn!

She's showing no signs of appearing though and starting to suspect it will end in induction so not 100% confident about the easy recovery element of the plan

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seeker · 04/08/2010 22:46

I took ds to a party in a sling when he was 4 days old.

I see your neglectful barbecue going, and raise you staying at a party til 1 in the morning then walking home in the snow.

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JamieJay · 04/08/2010 22:46

Oh and thanks for all the good wishes

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JamieJay · 04/08/2010 22:47

seeker love the idea of walking home in the snow with your baby!

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Valpollicella · 04/08/2010 22:50

Oh really do enjoy the portable stage (if you're up to it of course)

If you're planning to BF then you can walk up the road with little more than a change (er, maybe a couple ...) of clothes for baby and thats it

Wait till they're 4 and you have to pack every engine known to the Island of Sodor in your bag before you can possibly even consider leaving the house

I wish I'd made more of it!

SharonGless · 04/08/2010 23:02

Agree with everyone else. Took DD to party at 10 days old and so easy. Wait to see how you are though. After was induced with DS didn't feel much like going out.

As others have said as long as you don't stand next to the amps she will be fine.

Good luck and make the most of the portable stage as Valipollicella said above. Babies are sooo easy in comparison to toddlers

sleepwhenidie · 04/08/2010 23:07

Oh FGS - Dh and I took DS1 to V festival when he was 11 days old. Obviously we weren't in the moshpit but we wandered round while he snoozed happily in a sling. Never a possibility with subsequent babies because (as others have said) the older ones weren't nearly as portable and adaptable. Go and enjoy the bbq and showing off new babe.

Valpollicella · 04/08/2010 23:12

Sleep, wow! In awe

sleepwhenidie · 04/08/2010 23:15

Don't be too impressed Valpolicella - we only went for the day, we didn't camp, I am not completely insane

Valpollicella · 04/08/2010 23:36

But.... still....!!

I don't think I had got dressed out of my PJ's at day 11

seeker · 05/08/2010 06:30

"
seeker love the idea of walking home in the snow with your baby! "

It was absolutely magical - one of my happiest memories.

anyabanya · 05/08/2010 06:40

Lordy, i am hoping to go to a BBQ birthday that will have fireworks tomorrow, and infant son is 4 weeks old. It honestly never occurred to me that it would be a problem. I had planned though to leave before the fireworks, because of noise, but when i mentioned this to my midwife she shrugged and said i should not underestimate what the baby could cope with and not to limit myself.

Have a lovely time and congrats on your baby!

gorionine · 05/08/2010 07:15

It is only 10 mins from where you live? just go, my guess is that everything will be fine but should you notice your baby is enjoying it less than yourself you can make your excuses and leave.

I remeber burning toasts and the fire alarm blaring just over DD4, who was just over a few days, head, she did not even wake up. I was convinced she was deaf (which she was not and still isn't)

mamasunshine · 05/08/2010 10:41

Definately go! My ds2 had been to 3 bbq's by 3days old It was great, I relaxed feeding baby and being handed plates of food

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JamieJay · 05/08/2010 11:19

Thanks for all the reassurance, nice to know that life can go on vaguely as normal while the baby is little, will make as much as I physically can before we head into the years of taking half the house with us

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Esme01 · 06/08/2010 22:53

dear goodness. Dont start with the precious first born before the baby even arrives!! You will be fine (as I think your own instinct told you! Dont let others take you away from your own instinct)

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