It's all going wrong..

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we are on holiday - a 'lets all have a lovely relaxing time and all will be wonderful' type affair but...

DS(6) almost certainly has some type of sensory processing disorder - mostly within the tactile sense (I think) -it has been suggested at school, we have had no formal diagnosis, but are in the system. This holiday is not sitting well with him, although I thought it would (it is familar to him) The flare ups are huge - our irritation with him is obvious no matter how hard we try, although at least DH admitted that there may indeed be something wrong. He has previously just suggested that DS is probably just bored at school.

Anybody got any ideas how to improve our life? Everybody's patience is a shreds -although DS,DD & DH are now all fast asleep whilst I have turned to the wine...

what is going wrong exactly?

I think holidays are stressful as hell with children

thanks for answering..his meltdowns are becoming huge, could deal with them at home, but here they seem more violent and longer.

In shops he has to touch everything and won't stop at a simple please stand here, or hold this...there always has to be one extra 'thing' to do. I feel that we are always 'on at him' probably are in comparison to being at school. Yo compound it all, I feel so bloody useless because I know there is a better way to do all this and I just don't know it.

honestly I would avoid going into shops

While you are away I would try bribery in order to get some peace. You are on holiday, let the rules go hang.

Think about what triggers him and try to avoid it, even if that means splitting you and DH up in order to get some things done. It is better than coping with a stressful situation constantly.

I don't have any actual experience with the issues you are struggling with, sorry.

Hope someone comes along with better advice soon.

agree with finding triggers and avoiding at all costs

if he likes touching things and you have to take him into a shop perhaps one of you could look after him and make sure he touches stuff carefully, while the other gets whatever you're in for?

thanks. might repost in special needs.

TBH the shop was just a quick 'buy some milk' after a theatre trip then pizza...limited running off steam potential.

I think I rather naively thought all life's niggles would melt away, but they really haven't. boo hoo poor me huh?

you are entitled to feel stressed out

I have wept on holidays before now (I only have toddler tantrums to deal with ) as it is so much harder than at home.

Before children holidays were actually fun...

ahh i know how you feel. i do this a lot, i get an idea in my head of how lovely it'll all be... then real life goes and ruins it all

i have found it useful on past holidays to give up doing the things i think will be nice for the children and just going with what they want tbh!

absolutely...I think it is because this place has alwys been about the relaxing, the DC are now mostly just intent on maiming each other,DS bless him is struggling and I don't know how to help.

It just feels like such a huge effort, for minimal reward. Still, another day tomorrow...

why do we do it to ourselves??

gotta keep up that happy family smile...