3.9 yo DS hasn't seen his Dad in over a year. We spilt because he was abusive and agressive, the police were involved too. We tried mediation to agree when he could see the kids and the mediator stopped the session as he was being aggressive, I set up the contact centre but he refused to attend. He does pay via the CSA but will not see them, and TBH as he was getting very scary I am relived I don't have to deal with him anymore.
But today at bedtime DS said his Daddy didn't love him. FWIW I think his Dad does love him. The only thing I could think of at the time was to explain that his daddy does love him but he has to live somewhere else as he was grumpy (understatement of the year).
There is a high chance he will not see his father for many many years and I have no idea what to tell him .
Suggestions and experience appreciated! TIA.
Might not reply tonight as I am shattered after a household D&V bug last night and I have work tomorrow.