Lack of direction in older child

[Lucydog]

My son is 21, and is perhaps to old to have his problems addressed on tnis site, but if a parent of older children has any advice I'd be grateful to hear it.
He got good GCSE's, then totally flunked AS levels. Worked for a year in a technical job, then got fired. Has just finished a BTEC. Has also just sat his English GCSE for the 3rd time, trying to get a 'C'. A couple of years ago he was also diagnosed as dyslexic.
He hasn't managed to get a job yet, and can't claim job seekers allowance as his grandmother left him a trust fund.
He is kind, gentle, put totally lacks direction, or the focus that would get him a job.
Can anyone give me some advice of how best to deal with this?

From what I can see the job market for that age group (20-25) at the moment is absolutely horrible . Even the crappy jobs are being snapped up by overqualified people. So tbh it wouldn't be easy for him to get a job if if he had more focus - and he may well know that and be demotivated by that.

What is he interested in? What is he good at? Does he need to grow up and cut apron strings do you think? - if so perhaps a stint travelling might help? Or is it that he doesn't know what he wants to do. If so, then perhaps some work experience - do you have any friends or neighbours who might let him shadow for a week?

He could also look into volunteer work - unpaid but at least there would be something on the CV and would get him out of the house. Though again many volunteer positions are hotly competed for at the moment.

Best of luck to you both.

My daughter was a bit like this but she left school with no qualifications at all .

She then started a Health and Beauty course at college which she left after 6 months.
Next she went to work for my DH with a view to going into restaurant management. After a few months DH told her to leave before he had no choice but to sack her (she really was bad I don't blame him).
Next was a stint in a travel agents while going to college to study travel and tourism. They sacked her when it emerged she wasn't actually going to college.
Next a year in a shop with mutterings about retail management. That didn't work out.

Finally she decided she wanted to work with troubled young people. She has just completed her first year at college and is currantly applying for uni places to study social work. She loves what she does and always gets top marks for all her work. She is 22 now.

I think some young people just take longer to find their way in the world.
Maybe your DS could do some voluntary work
to give him some ideas.