I feel so worn down with DCs behavior lately. They are always well behaved with other people but as soon as they are in the house with me, they can be a nightmare. They are 14, 11 and 8 so they are not toddlers.
They fight and argue constantly between each other for any reason
When I ask them to do something, they dont do it
They have less and less respect for me the older they get
They talk over me when Im telling them off
If Im telling one off for hitting, I end up telling the other one off as well because they are shouting over me or smirking at their sibling
Last week I sat them all down and told them Id had enough. I said if they cant be good for me then I might as well move out and they can stay with their Dad as they behave better for him. I also set out reward charts with types of behaviour and chores I expected from them with lots of nice incentives. They went upstairs and defaced each others charts, which they then denied.
I feel terrible for telling them I will move out, but at the same time I feel like walking out. I have been looking for nice places to go and things for them to do this morning. They know this but dont seem to care about being good.
What can I do to get them to listen to me and respect each other again.