Help - I can't look after 2 of them!

[CrazyOVERbaby]

I'm feeling really low today. I have a 2.5 dd and an 8wk old dd. I literally find myself unable to look after both of them at the same time. Take toady as an example. Went to playgroup with both of them. DD2 won't feed even though she's hungry cos she's in a new environment. Get home at lunch, try to put dd2 down for a much needed nap, but she won't cos she's hungry. Feed her, but then she won't sleep cos she's overtired. DD1 needs her lunch, can't get it for her. DD1 needs a wee, so goes in her potty, before trying to be helpful and putting down the loo. Obviously spills all over floor. Baby screaming, dd2 hungry and screaming. I feel like I want to crawl into a hole. HTF do I give them both what they need? Does it get any easier?

I think I'll have to let my obsession with DD1 watching too much tv go and just plonk her in front of Cbeebies! She went off to my mother in laws for some 'nana time' last night, and I felt awful for being sooooooo happy about that! Motherhood is one big guilt trip isn't it. I can't believe that I thought it was hard when I only had one baby - one baby is a piece of cake compared to having a toddler!!

It does get better!!! Mine are now just 2 and 4.5 months and bar the odd momemt it's fine.

I recommend a sling for baby, cbeebies for toddler and plenty of kitkats for you - 3 things I couldn't live without!

I also do loads of cooking at weekend, cottage pie, fish pie etc and freeze toddler portions so just have to heat it up during the week for DS1s lunch then give him sandwiches, cheese, tomatoes etc for tea. Cuts down preparation time loads and means at most DS2 is only crying for couple of minutes if he needs something.

It is hard and knackering and emotionally draining but worth it xx

i sympathise. 5pm-7pm is a nightmare in my house, ds1 age 9 needing help with homework, ds2 age 2 and dd age 6 months needing help with supper/bath/wees on toilet etc etc, preparing supper for dh return from work...

i find a large glass of wine poured at 5 and sipped gradually through the 2 hours helps!

I have noticed my gin consumption steadily increasing hahaha. I think that as soon as dd2 is through the night (please let that be soon - tips appriciated haha) I'll feel much better. Does anyone else find that weekends - when DH is around, and things are supposed to be easier - are harder than week days?

yes, cos you think you're going to be getting more help than you actually do! (no offence to my dh who is wonderful, but i do find it doesn't make as much diff having him there as i hope it will...)