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Bullying, your thoughts?, I cannot cope anymore

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tazin2001 · 29/07/2010 00:40

Hi, I am a newbie to this but would seriously appreciate some peoples views

I have two children, one aged seven, girl and one aged five, boy.
They are both quite sensitive the seven year old more then the five.

My neighbours grandaughter is always in her nans, I don't think her mother has many friends so is constantly at her mothers. I feel awful for saying this but I am seriously considering looking for a 666 on the little girls head.

She is also five and such a bully its unbeliveable, this has been going on for around 3 years now, she constantly screams in my childrens faces, is rude to me, comes in my garden and refuses to leave, I have had to physically remove her because she keeps screaming NO I WANT TO STAY HERE, her parents have seen and heard this but yet both parents and grandparents saying nothing to her.

I feel I have let the problem escalate, I am friendly with both the grandmother and the daughter however, I feel awkward saying anything that they may take as me calling them bad parents......... I am tempted mind.

This little girl once threw a scooter at my boy hitting him in the face, on purpose, no punishment.
She hits out constantly and as I have mentioned screams in their faces on a regular basis, she always wants things her way or no way, she gets everybody to stop playing with them and if they stick for themselves she lashes out.
My daughter has had plenty of run in's with her, chunks of hair, scrams, being pushed, scooters rammed into both of them, name callings, it is seriously beyond at times. Parents don't even give her a row

There are so many things to put but I would be here hours if I wrote it all down. Well today came to ahead, my dd was inside luckily just my ds out playing, she had all the kids running away from him so I shouted for him to come in and not play with them anymore if they are going to be nasty, I told him I would take him to the park.

On returning she wasn't here thankfully but I had told my children they were no longer allowed to play with her as she isn't the sort of child they want to be playing with, she is a nasty piece of work.
My ds was out playing with another child when here she comes, my ds told her he was not allowed to play with her anymore and she asked well no she never asks she screamed WHY!!!!, so he replied because my mother said.
The nan pipes up and says why cant you play anymore to which he replied because she is nasty and runs away from me all the time and stops other kids playing, the nan said oh that was earlier now its ok you can all play together now. this kid then proceeded to enter my garden, my son told her he wasn't allowed to play so get out of my garden, the nan pipes up again yes you are.

I though HELLOOOOO my child, my garden surely thats my decision, we ds had decided they could play at that point so I felt awful if I went out and pushed it further.

Any advice please, I am seriously at breaking point here :0(
Thanks

OP posts:
belledechocolatefluffybunny · 29/07/2010 00:52

You need a lock on your gate to stop this child from getting in. How high is your fence?

piprabbit · 29/07/2010 01:07

Tell the adults involved that your children need to have space that is safe for them. Where they can retreat if they are scared or frightened.

Tell that their child has physically attacked yours and that therefore she will not be allowed in your house or garden until you can be certain there will be no repeat occurences.

Wish them luck in tackling the bullying behaviour.

Put a lock on the gate.

savoycabbage · 29/07/2010 01:12

Definitely get a lock on your gate.

I'm sure that the nan wants her to come and play at yours because it is easier for her. How cheeky of her to tell her grandaughter that she could play in your garden when you had said she couldn't!

I think I would 'phase her out' but without giving too much of an explanation to anyone, even your own dc. Children are fickle and will often be willing to play with anyone rather than nobody so you might start finding yourself in a situation where your children are telling you that they want to play with her.

Also, you don't want to fall out with them as you live nextdoor and it could be awkward. When you get a lock on your gate tell your neighbour that you had a bike stolen out of your garden or something.

Keep your own children busy so that they are not so interested in playing with her. Have other children over to play or start an interesting holiday project.

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