I can only take my DD in small doses......is there something wrong with me?

[ABitTipsy]

And I mean literally, half an hour at a time. She is nearly 7, and just so full on. Talks NON STOP, needs CONSTANT attention, and I find it too much to handle. She is full of energy, life and enthusiasm (apart from when she is being moody, stroppy and grumpy, not very often thankfully) and whilst these are lovely qualities, I just find being with her for any length of time just too much and feel I need to get away for some peace and quiet and get my headspace back for myself.

Is this normal?

I am the same except I also have 19mo dts. I find that with the 3 of them whinging, crying, demanding and talking all day there is no room left in my head for my thoughts iyswim! I dream of having just one day where I had the house all to myself...

twin, yes, I absolutely know what you mean about no room left in your head for your own thoughts! The worst is in the morning. I am absolutely awful in the mornings and just need to be by myself until I have had a shower and something to eat. But DD comes at me the minute she sees me in the morning and just doesn't stop talking and demanding my attention. If I could just have an hour to myself first thing in the morning I think I would be much better the rest of the day.

Don't want to make you feel bad but right now I do have the house to myself for a couple of days..........it's complete bliss!

OH I AM SOOOOOO JEALOUS! My dd starts as soon as she gets up too, usually whining and asking about what we're going to do that day. I find I'm losing my temper a lot more with her as she takes up so much of my brain I just haven't got any room left to deal with her demands. On a lighter note please make me feel even more jealous by detailing exactly what you'll be filling your child-free time with. At least then I can live vicariously!

twin, sorry, was a bit hesitant about mentioning it, didn't want to make you feel bad! Well, today I am just at home and wasting time on MN to my heart's content! Tomorrow will have a nice long lie in and leisurely, peaceful breakfast and shower with my headspace all to myself! Then probably out for lunch and then....no plans. Then am meeting a friend for dinner and a show, next day meeting DH for dinner and a movie and then they're all back and the madness begins again!

I do get very annoyed with DD sometimes, I feel like she is stalking me, everytime I turn around, there she is! I do sometimes just tell her to go away and leave me alone , not in a nasty way but in a sort of desperate,pleading kind of way, and bless her, she just seems to bounce off and comes back 5 mins later!

That sounds like absolute heaven! I literally sighed when I read it imagining what that would be like. I hope you enjoy the time and hopefully feel refreshed when dd returns. Btw I understand the stalking feeling!

From what I've read on MN, if you schedule a bit of time for her, like a story, she might back off a bit.
MY DD goes through phases of following me around; I do feel stalked because I've always been an introverted sort of person and having people in my face, even in social situations, has always tired me out.
I try to remember it's not her fault, it's my fault for not scheduling proper relaxation time into my week. I need to take a book to a coffee shop by myself sometimes and then I feel a lot better. DH takes the kids on a Sun morning so I can go off somewhere by myself.

twin, thank you for your good wishes! And I do hope you manage to get some time to yourself at some point as well. I have to say DH and the DC's have only gone away like this fairly recently, it would not have been an option when the DC's were younger (they are 4 and 6).

Sakura, yes, DD was 'stalking' me yesterday, before she was due to leave with DH and DS. I know she was behaving like that because she was going away (only to grandma and granpa who she loves) and was probably feeling a little sad and anxious at leaving me! I managed to cope with it as I knew why it was happening, and thinking about it, apart from yesterday, DD's stalking has been a lot better recently, perhaps because I have been consciously trying to make sure I give her my sole and undivided attention every day for 30 minutes or so.