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Nanny's grandsons a bad influence. Long.

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BrigitteBardot · 22/07/2010 21:28

Am in a bit of a conundrum, although deep down I know what to do.
I have a DD 3.5 and a DS 2 and they have had the same nanny since DD was 10 months.
Nanny is 55 and also look after her 2 grandsons, same age as my DC.
DS goes fulltime and DD goes 1 day a week and school holidays (we're not in the UK).
She is brilliant and the kids spend their day in the garden or doing activities.

DCs and her grandkids have always got on fine.
But, recently DS has started to swear, hit and have an attitude (at 2!). Turns out he is imitating the nanny's grandsons. We have very different parenting styles from the boys' parents (we don't hit or swear in front of them) and I think it's starting to show.
This week, the youngest boy bit DS twice, and he shouts "Fuck", "Get out of my way" etc etc...
Because these boys are her grandsons the nanny is tied. She acknowledges there is a problem, but she thinks it's just a phase.
The children won't go in August, but am pretty sure the situation will carry on in September, as the boys' parents won't change, will they?
I need to find a new nanny, don't I?
Such a shame, the kids love her and she is brilliant.

Sorry it's so long.

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BrigitteBardot · 22/07/2010 21:37

Bump.

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colditz · 22/07/2010 21:42

She MIGHT ditch the grandkids for you, as You are the one paying her.

Poor boys, it's sad really that their upbringing is causing them social problems already....

maktaitai · 22/07/2010 21:46

Yes I would want to find a new nanny. But I hope I would give her a reason too, so that she could have a go at coming up with a solution.

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BrigitteBardot · 22/07/2010 21:53

It sucks. We have witnessed 2 lovely little boys turning into little terrors.
The grandparents and the mother are lovely but their dad is not the smartest (sorry if this sounds superior but truly what I think). They get smacked for everything, which just teaches them to be violent, and although I don't mind swearing, I obviously don't swear in front of, or at my kids.

I don't think she will ditch the grandkids. She'll keep them and get other kids to look after probably.
Not looking forward to the conversation...

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LolaKnickers · 22/07/2010 23:14

Yep - ditch the nanny. I swear like the best of them, but not in front of children (mine or in public as I don't like other people swearing in public when mine can hear) and I would really object to the f word at such a young age. Probably wouldn't bother me if they just came out with bugger or shit.

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