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Am I being a bit over sensitive?

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BertieBasset · 22/07/2010 20:07

My DD is 11 months, just started crawling. I know she doesn't understand me but I do stop her snatching toys and walloping other kids. Or at least tell her no and apologise if I'm a bit slow on the uptake.

I have a close friend who has a typical 18 month old little girl. Lovely but quite boisterous and doesn't like sharing. Who does

They came round today and my friend doesn't discipline her dd at all. Her dd kept taking toys off my dd, literally everything she touched, and then running off and hiding the toys behind the sofa.

My dd got upset and was crawling after her and the toys, which led to older dd throwing toys (some of which were pretty hefty, not just cuddly toys iykwim) across the room over the head of my dd.

This could have led to them hitting my dd with quite a clout, or breaking, although luckily neither happened.

My friend just sits there and doesn't say anything. I tried to kind of say "no sweetheart dd is playing with that, shall we play with something else" but she just grabbed it and ran off.

I'm not sure what to do really. I guess when they get older it will even itself out? I've been around enough toddlers to know generally what they are like, just wondered if I am being a bit harsh on 18 month old - well her mother really. I appreciate at 18 months they are still babies. Should I expect my dd to be doing the same at 18 months and perhaps I'll be fed up of repeating myself constantly!

Just wanted some opinions really.

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Hassled · 22/07/2010 20:10

That sounds quite standard for a lot of 18 month olds, but the mother absolutely should have intervened/made more of an effort to distract her DD.

The 18 month-old won't have any sort of sense of right and wrong/good and bad behaviour, but that doesn't mean you don't try to stop them lobbing toys and snatching. You distact.

Hassled · 22/07/2010 20:11

distract

belledechocolatefluffybunny · 22/07/2010 20:12

I don't think you are being harsh, it's alot easier to sort out behaviour problems like this when they are younger rather then when they are older. Your friend should pull her finger out and discipline her child.

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BertieBasset · 22/07/2010 20:17

Yes that's what I thought tbh, I'm not sure how I can approach it though.

It's not my place to discipline the toddler, certainly not if her mum is there, but the mum is sooooo laid back she just carries on chatting. She is genuinely lovely though.

Guess I'll have to suck it up if I want to see them both, which I do. Maybe get my DD a catching mitt for 1st birthday

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