He is the shouty strict one.
I am the easy-going touchy-feely one.
For many years it didn't matter because our DC were quite 'good' and easy to deal with. Now we have a typical 13yr old boy with a developing attitude
I get cross sometimes but more often let it wash over me - I remember how vile I felt at that age. And how vile I was to my parents. They tended to ignore it and wait for me to calm down and apologise. DH told me tonight (during a disagreement) that if he had spoken to his parents as DS had spoken to him he'd have been in big trouble. If I had spoken to my parents like that they'd have ignored it. This all started because DS had got a bit shouty with DH about something - I'd have left it - but DH responded with a lot of shouting and being cross. Cue the whole thing getting big and horrible and DS coming to me in tears.
Both the DC tell me how much they hate it when DH gets cross with them. I always tells them why he got cross and try to explain them but I can only do so much when I think he overreacts. Children overreact sometimes - adults do too but only one is excusable isn't it?
I told DH tonight that he upsets them but his attitude was 'what am I supposed to do? Let it go?' And I don't know what to say. I tried to tell him that he shouldn't shout so much - telling a child off for 'talking to me like that' whilst yelling and getting really mad is hypocrisy IMO.
What do I do? I don't want to undermine DH but to a certain extent I am simply by not being the same as him.