Going Back to Work - DD will be 9 months - Tips for Coping?

[LauraKB]

I'm due to go back to work 1 month today, by which time DD will be 9 months.

I'm really not looking forward to the logistics of it at all. I will need to get up at 5.30am to get everyone up and out for 7.10am train. I'm worried how DD will cope with this or will she just settle into the new routine?

I also feel I'm hardly going to see her, as I'll be doing full time hours over 4 days so I can have a full day off with her as well as the weekend.

I guess I am just all at 6s and 7s about it. DO you think I will feel better about it once we are in a routine. Its inevitable I will have to go back but just such a thought.

your dd will be fine. you won't. sod's law!

tbh as long as childcare is good, your dd will prob love the attention of new faces (mt dcs loved going to their grandparents) and it was me sobbing over the edge of the bath before returning to work...

good luck though, once you're back at work you will start to really enjoy being able to get out of mummy mode and back into individual person mode!

Thanks yousaid it, I'm hoping that's what will happen.

She LOVES her Gran so hopefully that will be fine then the other 2 days she is going to a childminder who she has taken to really well so far. However in the last couple of days she has become really clingy so looks like great timing for the separation anxiety to kick in!

I did have a good sob the night before she went to the CM for the first time, shamefully in front of her cos DP asked me what was wrong, and she just looked at me as if to say 'Mummy what are you doing? You're a bit mad aren't you?', lol.

Ah, I just used to creep out of the house while grandparents distracted dc's so they never realised i'd gone... always worth remembering so you don't have to leave them sobbing and feeling even worse

The night before i went back to work after having dc1 i was trying to bath her while dh had gone out for some potatoes to try and cook me a nice 'going back to work' tea and he came back to find dd sat in her bath seat in the bath merrily playing away while i was slumped against it snotty red eyed with huge racking sobs rambling 'but she won't liove me.. she'll forget who i am.. she'll love grandma more.. ' (forgetting dh had been working full time since she was born and she still recgnised him!) dh was so worried he said that if i was in such a state after a few weeks we'd have to look at living off one wage (that has never been mentioned since!_) but the icing on the cake when dh took over, put dd to bed, came downstars abnd said 'the local garage only had smiley faces left.. no potates' and i expolded and started crying =and screaming that i did not want fucking smiley fucking faces..

So yeah, you'll be fine! And if gran is prety clued up she'll know when you pick dd up to tell you she's had a fun day, been god, not been a problem and look how happy she is to see you.. making sure dd has been fabulously looked after but not as fabulously so as you look after her, of course!

.. but children make you lose the basic skill of typing correctly