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'But how did the seed get in Mummy's tummy?'

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Lapel · 15/07/2010 12:16

Hi ladies,

DD, almost 5yrs, is sooo curious about how her and her sister got in my tummy and how they got out! I have so far answered her q's with as much honesty as I think I can give without being too graphic! She know's her sister came out of the scar on my tummy but is do I say 'yes darling you came out of Mummy's Minnie....'????

Dh got the best question the other day, when she asked 'But, HOW did I get in Mummy's tummy?' Daddy said, 'Mummy ate the seed'! DD pondered for a minute then said 'What like a biscuit?' haha!!

Does anyone have any suggestions for a book maybe?

Many thanks in advance

L.A xx

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pinkteddy · 15/07/2010 12:26

'Mummy laid an egg' by Babette Cole is supposed to be good although I haven't read it myself. This link is quite interesting - family forum on the guardian website - some quite funny anecdotes from parents whose children have asked the same questions! guardian family forum

stacey5426 · 15/07/2010 14:52

We got asked this question.. DP answered my 4 year old DSD with..

mummy and daddy mix something up in a bowl then mummy drinks it..

reply.. like a smoothie daddy..

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ItsHunkyDory · 15/07/2010 20:09

I told mine that mummy and daddy made special love that only grown ups do when they love eachother very much etc.and that was it no furter questions really. Rather than the old stalk story as I think when they find out the truth can feel quite lied to.

BaronConker · 15/07/2010 20:16

I explained about a 'special cuddle' to DS1 when he was 5. He then asked if he could watch us doing the special cuddle, and I said 'no'. So he said 'one day when you're a bit less busy, then can I watch you do the special cuddle?' It's so hard not to laugh!! Basically explained that it was a private thing that people did when they were on their own, not a spectator sport. Now he's 7 and he knows pretty much everything as I'd rather he got all the information from me, and got it right, then hear some garbled version from kids in the playground.

GrimmaTheNome · 15/07/2010 20:16

Mummy laid an Egg, also theres one called (IIRC) Where Willy Went - willy actually being the winner of the Great Sperm race. . My DD loved these when she was about 5.

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Tortington · 15/07/2010 20:18

tell them the truth ffs. its just sex.

OrdinarySAHM · 15/07/2010 20:26

If they know the truth too young is there a risk they might try it too young?

ChasingSquirrels · 15/07/2010 20:30

Just tell them, to the extent that they are asking.

GrimmaTheNome · 15/07/2010 20:34

If they know the truth too young is there a risk they might try it too young?

No, at 5 they think it is some combination of hilarious and yukky. Their interest is purely scientific. If you keep it a secret and they learn half-truths in the playground it will be all the more mysterious and tempting.

SleepingLion · 15/07/2010 20:42

We have drip-fed information to DS as he has asked about it - so he knew about the seed and the egg first, then a while later we had the 'how did the seed get to the egg?' talk and so on. He thinks it is funny at the moment - although he did want to know whether it hurt the man to do that

llareggub · 15/07/2010 20:50

My DS is 3 and has been asking this question in stages since his little brother was born. He has been edging towards the killer question "but HOW does the sperm get in your tummy, mummy" for a few weeks. He finally came out with it last week so I told him.

He hasn't changed his behaviour in any way and I still don't think he has actually realised that one day he will be capable of the same thing. But having the question answered honestly I think has made some sort of logical sense to him and his questions have ceased for now.

zapostrophe · 15/07/2010 20:56

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OgreRebel · 15/07/2010 20:59

My 3yr old knows the basics. She asks, I answer questions honestly. She absorbs it, asks a few more questions and then moves on to how do flowers grow, how do bees make honey, what's rain etc.

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Lapel · 16/07/2010 11:17

Ahhh Smoothies and biscuits - great!! LOL!!

Thanks ladies x

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pranma · 16/07/2010 20:29

When dd was 3 she asked and I told her as carefully as possible-daddy planted seed in a special place etc.She said,'did you and daddy do that?'
'Yes'
Looking at her brother,,,,'Two times!!!You dirty things!!'
Why?Why dirty???'
Anyway she is 35 now with 2 dc so I am waiting to see how she deals with it.
I think I went wrong by telling her the 'special place' was near your bottom.

UniS · 16/07/2010 20:34

BOy was asking today, as he wanted to "let MY child eat cake mixture all the time when I get a Child" My pointing out that he would only "get" a child if he found a lady to be its mummy and things worked out that way led ( eventually)to
" it takes a special cell from mummy and another differnt special cell from daddy, and we put them together and you grew inside mummy."
We also had a bit of a chat about boys and girls having the right "bits of body & special cells" to make a baby but not the right hormones and the right hormones coming when your old enough .

Then he got side tracked by cake mixture.

hairytriangle · 17/07/2010 16:15

Daddy grew the seedinhis scrotum, then he put them in mummys vagina with his penis.

I hate the 'special cuddle' one. Because it's nothing like a special cuddle.

Jessiemich2010 · 17/07/2010 19:49

I have this all to come with both my girls lol my eldest is 3 so far she hasn't asked those q's but you can see the cogs in her head turning while she is cooking something up in her head lol so when she does ask about it I will be as honest as I can no seeds, no special cuddles etc I will explain to her in much better detail than my mum did lol my mum give me a book at 11 yrs old after I'd already learnt in school about it that made me embarassed by getting it this way and at that age, my mum's excuse was she was too embarassed to talk about it, but me being me yes I'm a shy person but I will tell my girls everything they need to know when they need to know it as they ask they will get the info they need so they don't get mixed messages when their older. Telling them the truth and telling them how it is isn't going to get them interested in trying it themselves at an earlier age it's just basic facts of life they need to learn from us thats what I think No point in covering the facts up and later on them finding out alsorts in school and from other kids, you need to tell them how it is

Helokitty · 18/07/2010 18:18

My Dd1 is 6 and has been asking questions about how the seed got in there.

The conversation went a bit like this...

"Did they put you to sleep when they put the seed in your tummy, mummy'

"who?"

"The people at the hospital..."

Cue my explanation that it is the daddy who puts the seed in there.

"Did he use gloves?"

Cue a bit more detail as to how this is done...

"Urgh that's disgusting"

Followed by...

"When daddy puts the seed your tummy, did you have to stand on your head?"

At which point I think I wet myself .

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