Help please

[swissrole]

I have a dd who is due to start school in September and she is constantly pushing boundaries. Can anyone give me some patience tips please? The mornings and evenings are the worst times, when i am under school run pressure or bedtime routine fatigue. I have found myself getting quite cross through complete exasperation. Warnings don't seem to help the situation. Is this a typical middle child scenario? Anyway stress/child management tips would be most welcome from all you experts. Thanks.

sounds familiar my dd was /is the same,shes now 13,
..we got her up as early as possible so theres not so much of a rush,,tried not to talk to her too much..as she used to scream at anything we said and just remain calm..reward charts are great maybe a magazine or something at the end of the week.just a question is she above average??when dd started school teacher thought she was very gifted

She was ready for school a year ago and watched all her peers move up and seems to have had a dificult year.She is very socially advanced with a 6 year old brother and knows more people on the school run than i do! She can't wait to cut the apron ties. Her behaviour is off the scale when dh is around. The thing is she needs some clear boundaries but i also want to be positive and loving in my approach. The reward chart idea sounds great - can you buy them?

she sounds very clever and independant ,you can buy them from gltc and letterbox but they are expensive but nice,ebay do loads of character ones, but i made my own and stuck it to the fridge. when she was younger she was 1 of 3 so i made them all charts so she didnt feel odd one out,what sort of things is she doing or saying?

She says things like what are you doing here - i don't want to go (pick up from pre-school/playdates). She will jump off walls, refuse to share toys, is rude to me in front of adults and has hit me before, constantly pesters me for junk food. Fundamentally she is a very bright loving girl and i have great reports from other adults who say her behaviour is very good. She is also one of 3 and there is fierce sibling rivalry between them. I'm hoping the structure of school will smooth her out and am also open to any suggestions.