Advice needed please, sensitive subject.

[LaceandLeather]

I would like some advice please, especially from parents of young boys. My Ds's are 8 and 6 and tonight something has happened that has worried me but i'm unsure whether this is normal for young boys or whether it is a warning sign of something more serious.

Ds2 is six. About an hour after I put them to bed in their shared room he came down stairs saying that Ds2 (8) has told him to kiss his winkle or he would suffocate and die.

I went upstairs and asked what was going on, DS1 denys saying anything of the sort admitting he did say that DS1 would suffocate and die but only because he had his head under the quilt. He says he didn't mention kissing winkles. DS2 is adamant he said it.

Regardless of whether he said it or not, neither of them should have any concept of 'kissing winkles'

I don't know if this is normal messing about for boys or whether I should be worried and if so what do I do?

A bit of background,

ExH and I have shared custody, I have a boyfriend but he has never once been alone with my children, we've have only been together a few months. ExH is single and as far as I know doesn't have anyone around the boys apart from family, so I have no idea where they could have got this idea from, unless maybe they have seen something they shouldn't on TV. They only use the cbeebies and playhouse disney site on the internet and always suppervised.

School maybe? Beavers? I have no idea.

So, any advice please?

I really wouldn't worry - an 8 year old will be picking stuff up at school whether you like it or not! my dd - also 8 - frequently rambles on about genital matters! the suffocate and die thing is just high jinks - don't worry.

I wouldn't worry about this - I would have thought that it was normal?

Don't over-react...this is normal growing-up, pushing boundaries stuff

Have a firm chat with both of them about how certain parts of their bodies are private until they are grown-up and about saying a firm "no" if anyone shows too much interest in them

then carry on as normal

My gut feeling is don't worry - at least not in realtion to where they have got the idea from.

My DS is 4 and ever since he was a baby I have occassionally massaged him with baby lotion after the bath. The other night whilst I was rubbing his back he asked me to massage his "winky". I explained that other people shouldn't touch his winky and he replied "but it would be nice". I took it to be a very natural (and very innocent) exploration of his feelings. I can see it would be a short step to kissing.

On the other hand the school playground is rife with this sort of language. Children pick all sorts up from older sibblings friends. Usually it is quite innocent and a useful way of explaining "rules" etc about their bodies.

Agree with AnyFucker.

As usual

Thank you.

I will just put it down to boys messing about, I've just noticed there is another thread active along a similar line so I will go and lurk on there and read the advice given.

Thanks for the reassurance.

I have a 5 and 9 year old boy. I caught them a few months ago playing chase upstairs when they were meant to be getting ready for their baths. Apparently the chaser was trying to kiss the other's willy . All very good natured but they were told firmly 'No. We don't do that'. Other variations on this theme have been chasing each other and trying to grab each other's willies! I work in child protection and things like this seem to be par for the course with boys.