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Does this sound really silly ?

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lisalisa · 20/05/2010 22:35

I would like to surprise dh and book a long weekend break abroad.

We have 5 children and I am 10 weeks preganant with our 6th ( which was incidentally - although now very much wanted - a failure of the pill!) .

As such we have ahead of us a quite tough time as I am always quite poorly in pregnancy and sleepless nights to come etc....

Dh would love this as we have only done it once before about 8 years ago.

Childcare is not a problem as my parents would move in during the weekend and the friday and monday the children - being all of school age - would be at school.

My problem is that i have always held a paranoia that if the plane shoudl crash with me and dh inside who would look after our kids? I have no brothers or sisters and myu parents couldn't do it as my dad is terminally ill ( although thankfully ok at the moment) and mum is his carer. Dh has no family in the UK and I wouldn't want dcs to go to his family in any case.

I would therefore like to fly separately so that if something happened to one of us the other would still be there .

I realise that this sounds a bit extreme but cannot overcome this feeling - at least now.

Would you think it really silly and pathetic - to the point of ruining the whole idea of a trip together - if your partner suggested the trip and then insisted on separate flights?

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GypsyMoth · 20/05/2010 22:36

i thibnk with ash clouds and strikes,you dont want to complicate things further.....stay in the uk,if thats where you are now!!

Lulumaam · 20/05/2010 22:38

congratulations on your pregnancy

i honestly thikn you have more to worry abotu re the ash clouds and BA strikes.. book something luxurious in this country instead

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lisalisa · 20/05/2010 22:39

I did think about the ash clouds and the fact that we could end up holidyaing apart (!) but am I not right in saying that since the major disruption at the end of April that there has otherwise been only one day of disruption? Also the place I have in mind is south of europe so away from teh ash cloud. And not taking BA...

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GypsyMoth · 20/05/2010 22:42

no,even the scientists cant accurately predict....it could go on for 2 years....disruptions give little warnings

funnysinthegarden · 20/05/2010 22:42

Yes, separate flights would kill the idea of a romantic weekend together. Perhaps stay where you are and have a few days together instead. Where are you BTW? Anywhere warm?

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lisalisa · 20/05/2010 22:47

I am unfortunately nowhere warm ( unless you can count today!!) as I'm in England. dh also doesn't like going away in England either for some reason.

Do you really think it woudl kill the romance?

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funnysinthegarden · 20/05/2010 22:53

yes, I think it would. Part of the fun of a short break away is the travelling part, esp if you have 5 kids. You need to make the most of every second. How about going somewhere warmish in the UK. Cornwall/ Devon/ South Wales?Or how about the CI? You can get here by boat and its a) quite warm and b) not the UK

Hullygully · 20/05/2010 22:57

Take the train, first class on Eurostar. Look at Seat61 for routes and trains all over Europe. It's great, and no sodding airports.

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lisalisa · 20/05/2010 23:03

That's true hullygully - we could take the eurostar somewhere but I really would like somehwere warm and to get to southern europe which is realy only the safe bet at this time of the year would be a day's travelling I think.

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funnysinthegarden · 20/05/2010 23:07

Yes, and so you will both have to fly. Nothing is really going to happen to the children is it? You really do need a holiday. Trust your instincts, they will be fine

LelephantShoes · 26/05/2010 23:37

cud your LOs go to your parents etc and you and DH spend quality time in your home literally run wild whilst kids not there and have house all to yorselves? literally lock the door friday and dont unlock it untill monday!

i feel the same way about leaving my LOs even down to my bro minding them for an hour or 2 and me warning him not to drive on a motorway incase of accidents, flying totally out of question for me as i think id have heart attack before gettin on the plane. its not about who id have to watch my kids as i know they wud be safe, but with me its a case of if something happens to me will they even remeber what i look like.

scurryfunge · 26/05/2010 23:40

If the thought of air travel is going to ruin your holiday, do something else.

You are more likely to be killed on the way to the airport than on a plane.

sarahbeenybag · 31/05/2010 15:01

eurostar to avignon?

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