Child's party at soft play - what do you do if parents just don't RSVP?

[GoldenGreen]

I've invited a mix of our friends + some children that ds knows from nursery to his 4th birthday party in 4 weeks time. I sent invites two weeks ago.

I have had very few responses from anyone but I can at least chase up my friends - with the nursery parents, I don't see any of them at drop off or pick up time so can only communicate through notes left at nursery and I don't want to be a pain.

I was just wondering - if people just don't respond, do I assume they aren't coming? If they turn up anyway it will be problematic as I have to confirm numbers with the venue and there won't be food for the unconfirmed children!

Just wondered what people's experiences are.

People are terrible at responding. It's a blight of our times (or something). Having said that, the party isn't for four weeks and you did invite them a long way in advance. So I wouldn't start cursing them all yet.

Don't worry about 'being a pain'. If you have to nag people for a response it's their fault for not replying in the first place. If you have a deadline to confirm numbers with the venue, then one week before that deadline sent a note to everyone who hasn't replied yet saying 'A reminder about ds's party on X. Please let me know by Y whether your child can come so that I can confirm numbers with the venue.' If they don't get back to you then assume they're not coming.

If someone does end up turning up anyway, don't worry - the venue will be used to it I'm sure!

Cool, thank you, will find out the deadline and do as you suggest.

I did wonder if it was a bit far in advance (but in my defence am 39 weeks pregnant and wanted it all sorted before I changed my mind about having the party altogether!).