whats does your family (mum) think of your dh/dp

[twinkerbell]

my mum likes my dh but often runs him down, its clear she thinks he is not good enough for me/thnks I could do better and I get the feeling my sister thinks the same.
I know he isn't perfect and he has brought me alot of grief but I certainly know alot worse. Its starting to affect me though

oh they do 'get on' but dh is quiet and not really big on the whole family type stuff, he keps himself to himself. my Brother in law is very outgoing and sociable and confident, mum thinks he is great

Hmm

they seem to like him

habve agreed to come away with us
but have heard them laugh at both sister's DH's

although theys till like thm, just- well no not one of them really

They wouldn't tell me iof they didn;t anyway

They must have loved ex-F though as they ahd him round for New Years after we split and not me, whcih shows they have poor taste PMSL

Twinkerbell - they'll respond different ways to different personalities. If they get on with your DH, that's great - dont compare his relationship with your family to your BIL's relationship with them - that way craziness (and jealousy) lies...

Mum always takes his side if I tell her about a row we've had. She's really proud of him and I think she likes him more than me tbh.

Dad said he is "the best decision I ever made"

Not in even remotely similar situation but my mother refers to my sometmes DP/sometimes ExDP as "that bloody man". She loathes him. And, frankly, with good cause. He's not a bad man, he just can't keep it in his trousers.

My parents like him better than they like me

Take his side when I moan (they're right though, I am being unreasonable )

Commiserate (jokingly) with him about him having to put up with me

When we see them, they greet the kids, then him, then me.

Bloody charming, when you think about it

Your poor parents, "he's brought me a load of grief".

Have you got DCs? Would you be happy if anyone gave them a load of grief?

well I guess alot of the grief is not by his 'fault' if that makes sense? it has mainly been from his ex and financially I inherited a lot of debt when we married that I wasn't necessarily aware of.
He hasn't been a monster or anything, he is a decent man I just wish my mum and family had a bit more respect for him instead of reminding me how much better I could've done.

Ok, apologies. As many threads on MN seem to be about abusive DPs, I (wrongly) assumed that the grief might have been physical.

It just seems that there are lot of women on here putting up with crap from men, which is a bit different to credit card debt (or whatever the "grief' extends to).

As a women who is a second wife too, my sympathies. But we do it cos they're worth it...