feeling gutted

[marble]

i am moving house this week and up until now i've felt quite positive and excited. house went up for sale last summer and got offer in january so it has gone on for ever but now that it is finally here and real i feel this overwhelming sense of sadness. the house is too small really and we really do need somewhere bigger and we are on a very busy main road which is difficult now kids are older and playing out riding bikes etc. practically it is the right thing to do so why am i feeling like crying and crying. have been here 13 years and it was our first house when we got married, had babies here etc. dh can't understand why i am feeling like this, tells me i have to move on and take happy memories with me. just feel sooo sad and sentimental it is almost like i am grieving. can anyone help am i being over the top? has anyone been in the same situation and got over it quite soon? (i havnt even gone yet!)

Yes, I've been there and yes, you get over it quite soon!

I left behind the house where I came home from my honeymoon to, where I bought my babies home to, where DS1 took his first steps...

But we've moved to a better house with a huge garden, better area, schools etc etc and I'm building new memories. We've been here about a year and a half and I keep having recurring nightmares where we've moved away from here to another house!! I think I can safely say I've settled in

I suspect this is a Girl Thing which men are never going to understand.

Oh Marble, I think you are having perfectly normal feelings! Probably just like Soupy said, a Girl Thing. We have just put our house on the market, this has been our only house since marriage, ds came home here from hospital, and I am very excited about moving, but when it eventually happens I know my emotions will get the better of me.

I remember crying for ages when we first bought this house, as I'd lived with my grandmother for a number of years and she had had to move out for medical reasons to live with my aunt, after 45 years in the same house, so once I got married I knew her old but homely house would have to be sold and no family member would ever live there again. BUT, like Soupy said, you DO get new memories and the process starts over again.

DH would say that it's only bricks and mortar, but we know different, don't we!

Marble - we're trying to move (and it's taking ages)but I'm sure I'll feel the same when we do eventually go - I love this house and like you it's my first house and has many happy memories - I'm sure it passes though and you'll transfer your affections to the new house - good luck and congratulations on actually being able to move ! :0

Marble, it's so normal to feel like this - I also wept buckets when we left behind the grotty but beloved little flat that was our first home as a couple and then as a family. It took me a long time to accept that the flat was totally impractical and the new house was much better all round for us - dh could not understand at all.
It does get better in time, as all the others say.

you have all been so kind and understanding as i sit here blubbering some more. just spoke to dh very upset on phone and he just can't relate telling me i'm being silly, so he's gone off in a mood i don't understand how he can be like that. he says i'm just scared of change, i'm not i simply feel sad inside. what is making it worse i think is that the last stuff to be packed is the loft stuff so i'm rummaging through first babygrows, shoes, baby photos etc sob!

Bless you marble. I'm sure you really do feel horribly sad inside, but I think maybe your husband is right, perhaps you are fearing change. If you acknowledge that then it may be possible to confront it.

I have experienced a heck of a lot of changes during the last year, and the one constant thing that I am attempting to hold on to is my home. I feel incredibly attached to it, so I have an inkling of how you are feeling. Change is an inevitable though and we have to accept it sometimes.

Treasure those memories though, hopefully you can put them away in a little box and make even bigger and better ones.

Wishing you all the best.

thanks sd, you are right, i know deep down inside that i am being silly, but it is very hard not to feel emotional just glad i am not the only one. and i did cry my eyes out when son started school, but within a couple of weeks it was as if he'd always been there

bobbins, i have read your thread about little harvey and it brought me to tears. thankyou for your kindness after you have been through so much. maybe i am scared of change i never thought about it before you have made me feel more positive bless you