ds's best friends mum..

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Ds is best friends with a little boy C. C's mum likes to encourage his friendship with R (her friend's son but in the same class). Ds is rarely invited to go play at C's house despite C begging his mum on the playground (embarrassing I know) so we have C to ours quite often (at least weekly). Anyway it's C's birthday this weekend and ds has bought him a PS2 game as he is getting a PS2 for his bday. So yesterday after school we delivered it to his house and outside were C and R playing. C immediately left R and came running over to ds. C's mum came out and over to the car and said "does ds want to stay for an hour?" and proceeded to explain that she had inherited R after school and it was unexpected. Anyway ds couldnt stay and we arranged hurriedly for one evening after school next week. When we got back ds said that C had told him in the day that R was going round after school. Why would she lie and more to the point, what's wrong with my ds that she doesnt want him there? Ds is leaving the school next week and I would like him to stay in touch with C but am wondering whether it's really worth trying

you probably summed it up in your second sentence - her friends son! in my experience, quite a few mums who are mates practically force their kids together! probably nothing more in it than that!

C's mum sounds very odd indeed. I would say let your ds and C stay in touch as much as they can and try to rise above her idiot behaviour. It sounds like the boys do really like each other.

You never know, it might turn into one of those really great lifelong friendships.

my son James is best friends with a little boy Cameron. Cameron's mum likes to encourage his friendship with Richard (her friend's son but in the same class). James is rarely invited to go play at Camerons's house despite Cameron begging his mum on the playground (embarrassing I know) so we have Cameron to ours quite often (at least weekly). Anyway it's Cameron's birthday this weekend and ds has bought him a PS2 game as he is getting a PS2 for his bday. So yesterday after school we delivered it to his house and outside were Cameron and Richard playing. Cameron immediately left Richard and came running over to ds. Cameron's mum came out and over to the car and said "does James want to stay for an hour?" and proceeded to explain that she had inherited Richard after school and it was unexpected. Anyway James couldnt stay and we arranged hurriedly for one evening after school next week. When we got back James said that Cameron had told him in the day that Richard was going round after school. Why would she lie and more to the point, what's wrong with James that she doesnt want him there? James is leaving the school next week and I would like him to stay in touch with Cameron but am wondering whether it's really worth trying

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she told me she inherited richard after school. James and Cameron really like each other though and want to see each other out of school but there is always a reason why she cant have James. I know James will really miss Cameron when he moves and am keen for them to stay in touch as Cameron is just like James and they get on soo well. I suppose it also annoys me a bit as when they first came over from Zim in 2000 as chair of our PTA I was asked to show them the ropes and ended up being her only friend for a while until she was comfortable with the other mums. I do like his mum but she isnt entirely my cup of tea on a social level but the kids get on well

an update on this:

About 3 weeks ago ds wanted to invite cameron round to play but knowing that they had moved next door to their old house I tried the number but found it not working, so we popped round to invite him after school one day. His mum said he was out but would get cameron to call my ds not offering her new number out obviously. ANyway he hasnt called . Today we went to the old school as I had to collect my friend's dd for her (my ds has an inservice day so was with me) and we saw cameron and his mum etc. Anyway cameron was keen to talk to ds but his mum hurried him along giving them barely a minute to talk. So obviously ds cant pursue his friendship with cameron which makes me quite sad to be honest.

Skinneycow (or whoever).

You can't force her to be friends, so if she doesn't want her son to play with James, whatever the reason may be, there really is nothing you can do about it.

If I were you i'd forget it and help James move on to new friends at his new school.

i know that easy and I wouldnt force them to be friends but just feel sad for my ds. He is starting to make new friends at his new school though