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Recurrent dreams- anyone have them or can interpret?

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tallulah · 18/06/2003 21:50

Had to spend an hour in casualty with DS3 (11) last night following head injury- not serious as it turned out. Woke up this morning having had a dream I used to get very very regularly. I'm wondering if anyone has any ideas what it's trying to tell me, as I get it when under stress.

The details always differ, as does the story, but it always features the conservatory of the house I grew up in. It was changed (extended/ new windows etc) when I was 18- the week I met my DH- but in the dream it's as it was when I was a child.

In the dream I am always trying to shut and/or lock the back door. There is always a problem with the door so that it won't shut or lock, and there is always Something out there in the dark, coming down the path. (only once did I ever see It, and then it was an enormous black dog. I think it is usually a bad person). I am always petrified and desperately trying to lock this door.

This time my DS3 was upstairs asleep in my mum & dads bedroom- with my dad, who died 7 years ago. DS2 was supposed to be sleeping in the back room & I was in the kitchen, looking out at the back door & asking my mum why it wasn't locked. She said someone had put a screwdriver to the lock (which didn't explain why the bolt wasn't across). The kitchen door was locked up tight but the back room window was wide open & there was only a little flimsy bolt on that door. In the dream I was worried.

Outside on the lawn was a circus tent full of stuff, with a couple of strange kids taking things on a flat bed trolley. We tapped on the window but they wouldn't go away.

Weird or what? I would add that as a child I kept rabbits & guinea pigs. They lived just outside the back door & it was my job to feed them at night. I then had to lock the back door. I don't remember an incident where someone did actually come down the path & scare me though. Any ideas on this gratefully appreciated.

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Ghosty · 18/06/2003 22:38

Tallullah ... haven't got time to post properly now ... as am due out ...
But just wanted to say I have read your post and I sympathise ... I am a very vivid dreamer - always have been - and I think that your dreams are all connected to your subconscious.
In brief here is what I think you dream is about ...
Something bad happened ... to your son ... you were shocked and I imagine frightened. Your dream represents you trying your hardest to protect those you care about from a 'bad thing' ... a person, dog, event, whatever. You are trying in your dream to keep whatever it is out but no matter what you do you can't keep it out ....
Basically your subconscious is illustrating the frustration you feel that no matter what you do you can't always protect your loved ones ...
Does that make sense?
Not sure about the strange kids .... but was the trolley a hospital one ... that would explain your day at A and E with DS ....
Your DS being asleep with your dad ... your children and parents are both as important as eachother to you and you want to protect them all ... the fact that your dad died doesn't come into it ... you still love him and want to protect him ........
Just my rambling thoughts ....
I think dreams are really interesting ....
Anyway ... I know I said I didn't have time to post properly ... forget that ... I am now late but I don't care!!!!!!
Hope your DS doesn't have too much of a headache!!!

marble · 18/06/2003 23:37

ghosty i wonder if (when you have time) you could shed any light on my recurring dream also funnily enough i get it when i am stressed. I am moving house next week and it has been hell and i've dreamt this twice in the past week. i am always getting ready to go out with a bunch of friends all from my pre-kids days (a couple i still see) and they are either hanging around waiting for me or i am going to meet them in a pub somewhere, but i am always running late. i am in a panic to meet them. The dream usually ends up with me wanting to go back to my mums because i havnt got anything appropriate to wear they are all dressed up and i am all scruffy. sometimes i never actually make it to the pub, but if i do i am always uncomfortable. last night i was on a bus (havnt caught one for years) on my way to meet them and i looked down and had my slippers on, and when i got inside the pub i looked down and instead of a little handbag i had a great big shopping bag like the ones that little old ladies use. its really wierd any light to shed? thanks!

marble · 18/06/2003 23:39

i meant i was on the bus in my dream in case this is not clear

GeorginaA · 19/06/2003 11:59

I would say in most dreams the biggest key is the emotion you feel while you're dreaming. Dream symbolism is a dodgy field at best, especially as it can be so personal to the dreamer.

I would say from what you have described, tallulah, that the biggest emotion here is fear - and fear of the unknown, of the things you can't control, feelings of helplessness. It doesn't surprise me you get it while under stress - I think the things that stress us the most are things we don't have any real control over.

Incidentally, my repeat dream when I'm stressed is sitting in an exam and knowing I wouldn't be able to answer any of the questions....

whymummy · 19/06/2003 12:05

i went home for 3 weeks as i needed a break from the long and depressing winter,i was really looking forward to seeing my friends and going out,on my first night i had a vivid dream about loosing my luggage at heathrow but not being bothered about it a few days later i read in a magazine that the same dream meant i was in need of just getting rid of all my problems and responsabilities and having a good time,it was true!!

BigBird · 19/06/2003 12:10

I haven't had it in ages but a recurring dream of mine is that I am somewhere (anywhere) and have to go to the loo but the toilets are usually awful standard, dirty etc and usually have no door and therefore no privacy.
Any ideas ?

lou33 · 19/06/2003 12:31

I remember reading somewhere once that dreaming about a house is representative of yourself, each room being a different part of you.

tallulah · 19/06/2003 17:47

Thanks for that Ghosty, and everyone.

Bigbird, that is another of my recurring dreams! If I ever find a toilet it'll be on full view on a desk, or on a main road, or somewhere equally bizzare, with no doors. I did read somewhere that these sort of dreams are to do with being frightened to let people see the real you. I don't know how accurate that is?

DS is fine with no lasting ill-effects thanks.

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ks · 19/06/2003 18:13

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katierocket · 19/06/2003 18:46

oh god - recurring dreams - I have these all the time. one in particular about huge waves (yes really!). I'm at the coast/seaside/beach and the waves start getting bigger and bigger until a huge tidal wave appears - basically I have this horrible feeling of wanting to get away but knowing I can't. I feel absolutely tiny next to this huge mass of water.

I have it all the time and it petrifies me, it always seems to last for ages and ages. weird.

marble · 19/06/2003 21:38

thanks ks. i had a think about your post. i think out of all of my old set my friends i am probably the only one who isn't working at the moment and the ones i do still see regularly have all got really good jobs, i suppose they are all abit more career-minded than me( a couple of them went on to do degrees etc after our A levels). i never really thought about it before but perhaps i am a little envious of their independance. my one friend is a real high flier and although i am very fond of her maybe deep down i feel a little inferior just being a sahm, oh well....

your dream story was very interesting and i really do think our dreams are trying to tell us something half the time

Ghosty · 19/06/2003 22:11

I would agree with ks there marble ... that you feel you don't fit in with your friends anymore ... and also that you worry about how they perceive you ... eg will they laugh at you with you slippers on etc?

Does anyone have things that happen in different dreams that are the same? These are mine .... One is the trying to run but can't move thing ... another is the trying to scream but no sound coming out (had that last night) and the third is arriving at work and realising that I have no clothes on .... Hate that one - it is one of those ones that I make myself wake up !!
I have suffered from nightmares since I was a child ... and can usually never remember them although all my other dreams I remember well. I usually wake up from them in a sweat and shaking. I always cuddle up close to DH and try to calm down (I hate sleeping alone because of my nightmares)
One of the funniest recurring dreams I have started when DS was about 6 months old. I dreamt that DH announced that he was gay. He said that he was having a relationship with a man but he didn't want to leave me or DS ... wanted to stay as a family and was that ok by me? In my dream I said yes and every weekend DH would go out and come back really late smelling of cocoa butter or coconut oil. How strange is that????

miggy · 19/06/2003 22:54

I had the most horrible nightmare when Ds1 was feeding and colicky and I was really tired. A giant baby was suddenly clamped on my face (like it would to breast feed only in the wrong place) and I was being suffocated. But one of those horrible dreams where you think you are awake but cant stop the dream IYKWIM. So scary have never forgotten it- not that hard to interpret though!!

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