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Has anyone ever passed their driving test and then CHOSEN not to drive ??

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MrsMorgan · 08/02/2010 09:30

For whatever reason ??

It's well documented on here that I hate driving and whilst I am still currently perservering, I am still hating it.

I have an interview this morning, and I am way more nervous about the driving than the interview

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MmeLindt · 08/02/2010 09:34

My MIL.

Passed her test about 30 years ago but always felt nervous so never drove.

FIL broke his wrist on Xmas Eve and they have been reliant on friends and relatives to take them wherever they want to go. It could be up to 3 or 4 months before he is allowed to drive again, it is a real pain.

I would say keep driving, even if it is not long journeys so that if you have to drive for some reason, you are able to.

Flightattendant · 08/02/2010 09:52

My mother! She had to pass for her own sense of achievement and capableness iyswim, but actually rarely does as she prefers to be on her bicycle. (fair enough!)

I learnt, well passed in 1995 (second time) and got a huge ice cream van which I lived in for a while but it was hell to drive.

Once that kicked the bucket I never had another car, or drove, until ds1 started school and my parents got a car for us to share. It was a baptism of fire once again, but soon got used to it. Would be nervous driving a long way though, due to great capacity to get lost

Hope your interview went well

malovitt · 08/02/2010 09:56

My friend passed 20 years ago to prove to her DH that she could, but has NEVER driven a car since. She's just too nervous.

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MrsMorgan · 08/02/2010 12:04

Thanks, I just don't know. I hate it so much and if I only had myself to think of then i'd pack it in now.

Interview went ok thanks FA, won't know until the end of the week wether I got it.

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PuppyMonkey · 08/02/2010 12:11

My sister is like this. She passed but she just never drives cos she is not confident. Also a friend of ours has passed and she won't drive either - her dh gets really frustrated as he has to drive everywhere and he can never have a drink at ours or meals out etc.

I used to hate the lessons, but once I learned to drive I started loving it. I had to be able to drive really for my job and once I passed the test, i was simply expected to get in the car and drive places. It was the best thing for me, otherwise I might have been reluctant too.

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MrsMorgan · 08/02/2010 12:24

I just hate the way it makes me feel and I am now jealous of people who just hop on the bus.

I am slightly less nervous with someone else in the car, but not much.

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MrsMorgan · 10/02/2010 08:16

Feel absolutly sick to my stomach today.

Have got to take ds to a party at 5pm and I've not driven there before. It will be rush hour traffic and I just don't want to do it but I have no choice.

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sarah293 · 10/02/2010 08:32

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MrsMorgan · 10/02/2010 09:17

I am very nervous still and it doesn't seem to be getting any better.

I have to drive to asda now, which isn't far, pretty quiet roads etc but I still feel so sick. I hate feeling like this, I want it to go away.

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TwentiethCenturyHeffa · 10/02/2010 09:24

DH's grandmother can drive but never has, it causes problems now because her DH can no longer drive (health problems) so they can never get out anywhere. One of our friends passed her test at 17 but never drives because she's too nervous. I know a fair few people who can drive but don't have cars as well.

Sorry you're having such a hard time with it

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MrsMorgan · 10/02/2010 11:38

I hate the fact that I feel like this about it. It wasn't supposed to be like this.

I have just driven to asda, and to I discovered that the route I need to take to take ds to his party has diversions, so now I am a complete wreck and have just managed to cry buckets down the phone to xp.

I feel like such a wimp and a failure.

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PavlovtheCat · 10/02/2010 11:41

My Best friend, she hates it, and has not driven since she passed her test 15 years ago. She refuses, and her DH has to drive her everywhere as if she does not know how to (although she probably doesn't now?).

DorkTurnspit · 10/02/2010 11:52

It is possible to be indenpendent and not drive, there are taxis buses and trains in the world. I do not drive since I was in an extremely bad accident. I do not need lifts from anyone. I don't think anybody should feel they have to drive if they hate it.

sayanything · 10/02/2010 12:00

Me. I drive only when absolutely necessary and have never driven in Belgium (where I've been living for the last 5 years).

I hate it, I get very nervous and confused, and from what I hear, driving in Brussels is defo not for the faint-hearted - especially if you're used to driving on the other side of the road. It causes me so much stress, I prefer the "inconvenience" of public transport.

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MrsMorgan · 10/02/2010 12:12

I feel like i am waiting for permission to stop iykwim.

It wasn't too bad when I first passed because xp had a car and so if the dc had parties anywhere or sometning then he would take them.
His car is currently off the road though and so now I feel under tremendous pressure to cope with it and that is making me worse.

Xp has just said, that he will take ds to the party on the bus if i'd rather not drive, but fgs how stupid is that when I have a car sat here.

I never minded public transport anyway tbh. I learnt to drive because I thought it would improve my life and it isn't, it is turning me into a nervous wreck.

I am jealous of those of you who have posted and said you can drive but choose not to.

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TwentiethCenturyHeffa · 10/02/2010 12:27

How long have you been driving?

If you really hate it after a long time then maybe it really isn't worth it. What is it that makes you anxious

I used to be petrified of learning but I'm much happier now - I was scared of being on the road with other drivers but a year of riding a moped to work (nice easy controls) really helped and I'm more relaxed about that now so I can focus on the controls of the car. Not exactly a practical solution though.

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MrsMorgan · 10/02/2010 13:09

Six months, but I had a bump after 3 weeks and so was without the car for two weeks after that. Then I didn't drive for about 3 weeks again over xmas and new year because of the snow.

I just seem to over think the whole thing and worry myself stupid about what would happen if I had to go a different way or if I did something wrong on an island. All silly stuff really.

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Kaloki · 12/02/2010 22:41

Sort of. I drove for 3 years (dear god where did the time go?!) and now refuse to. I actually enjoy driving but feel like I have more freedom without the car

mariettama · 23/02/2010 22:03

I passed my driving test 15 years ago and never really drove. After having my baby I realised what I big mistake I've made. We had to walk everywhere in all weather conditions or wait for a kind mum to give us a lift. I can only blame myself for this and feel really guilty for my baby too. I decided to do something about it and I'm now taking driving classes. I still don't like it and feel very nervous behind the wheel but I will be the first one to pay for my son's driving test when he's older. My advice is to overcome your fear of driving and just do it. You never know when you may need it..

michaelbooblie · 23/02/2010 22:17

Mrs Morgan,
have you tried putting P plates on your car?

I passed my test a year ago and drove with

them for about six months. Other drivers

back off a bit and give you a bit more

space. It definitely made me feel more

confident.

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