Neighbour banging on our wall to make our baby be quiet.

[PANCHEY]

Now I admit we are noisy, DD1 gets up at 6am most days and watches Cbeebies, DD2 is 7months, is difficult to settle, she cries a lot at night, and sometimes nothing we do stops it. On two occasions our neighbour has banged on the wall. This is rich since we have just put up with four years of parties from this address. I have tried to talk to them, but have been told to write them a letter....to which my response was NO! Anyone had similar?

Just what you need when trying to settle a distressed baby! NOT.

Someone on here only yesterday was also saying their neighbour did the same. But I've hidden the thread I think in error and cannot find it to copy the link.

Did they tell you to write the letter did they?

That's the trouble with living in a house next to another. Tough tits to them really.

Keep a diary and record every single incident.

Go round there and try to talk to them rationally.

If you are renting tell the estate agents or the housing association or whatever.

I am saying this because I had a similar thing, culminating in verbal abuse and threats thrown at us yesterday morning as we left for work. I called the police to report it in the evening when I got home from work, and within the hour they sent a PCSO, but about ten minutes before he arrived they came up and where banging on my front door and hollering abuse at me, and the PSCO caught the tail end of their abuse and so knew how serious it was.

The crazy thing it we are not even loud and we don;t bang around or anything, but the ceilings in these flats are so thin that they can hear our footsteps and can't seem to accept this as normal flat living .

Good luck!

What twats. I'd write them a letter like they asked - a really short one.
'Please stop banging on the wall when our baby is crying. It makes him cry even more and I presume you do not wish this to happen any more than we do.'

Ok what has happened is this, we have a loft conversion, and when DD1 was little we took her upstairs when she screamed so that we would not disturb people. Meanwhile, nextdoor's teenage kids had party after party causing stress etc all around. However, us being us, we decided that we would just let it lie, since later on when ours are older we might have similar things happening (though am doubting we will be allowing drunken parties). Last year, they too had a loft conversion, and the property has been rented out. It is the tenants that are complaining, so they do not know about previous noise. The landlady, i.e. person with very loud teenagers, has written us a letter wanting to discuss the noise / baby crying to clear the air. I have left a message, saying that they will have to bear with us since as baby gets older, things should calm down. However, I do refuse to continuously tell my four year old to be quiet. She should have had more noise insulation put in, that's all I can say really. Its stress I could do without.

My brother bought some noise insulation for his wall and put it up and wallpapered over it. It has been life changing for him. His neighbour's were either arguing or having make up sex Invariably it was heard in his bedroom when trying to go to sleep. Not nice.

Then they would have the audacity to complain about his noise with the tv etc. Now they never complain and he never hears them either.

Now is not the time for you to embark on DIY with a baby but it maybe worth doing in the future. Not for them, they don't deserve your kindness but just for your own sanity if their noise gets to you. I doubt their landlady would put insulation in but you can certainly keep reminding her/ them.

I think they should buy some ear plugs if your baby is bugging them as the little thing cannot help it.

teaandcakeplease many thanks