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Should I let dc meet up with thier step sister?

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orangehead · 30/01/2010 19:31

A bit of background - my now ex husband (childrens dad)left for someone else when my sons were 17 months old and 3 weeks old. He told a load of lies about me to everyone to justify what he did, I was apparently a psycho and slept round. Within a few months his new gf was pregnant and they got married. By the time the baby was 6 months old they had spilt up, I dont know what happened. Then told me she was a psycho and she slept around, sounds very familiar .
He has been very on and off seeing my boys and has really messed them around over the years. But now has been seeing the regularly for two years and seems to be doing really well with them.
He does not see his daughter at all from his second marriage and from what I have heard she has an injunction against him.
My boys know they have a step sister, although only saw her a couple of times with their dad when she was a small baby and they were toddlers.
My boys are now aged 8 and 6 and their step sister will be 5.
I have just had a friend request on facebook from thier step sisters mum and a message asking how the boys are.
I have never met her. Its possible her intentions are to find out why her child maintance has stopped as ex has lost his job.
Its all a bit werid for me and a bit awkward but I want to do the best for my boys.
So what would you do?
Sory its long winded

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heQet · 30/01/2010 19:33

Do you mean half sister? (same father)

I think it is better, if at all possible, to let siblings have a relationship.

However, I wouldn't get drawn into any conversations about the father or anything. Just focus on the children.

rasputin · 30/01/2010 19:33

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MadOldCrone · 30/01/2010 19:37

Agree with heQet. But tread carefully.

Perhaps their step sister has been asking about them - I think they should have the opportunity to build a relationship with her as soon as possible.

orangehead · 30/01/2010 19:37

Yes half sister, it has been a long day

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StewieGriffinsMom · 30/01/2010 19:38

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woodyandbuzz · 30/01/2010 19:48

I would let them see her. Agree with others - don't dwell on ex.

Do you know their half sister's mum at all, or anything about her?

orangehead · 30/01/2010 19:58

No, I dont know her and all I know is what ex has told me, which is all very bad. But that really needs to be taken with a pinch of salt.

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