Stressful days

[lou33]

I'm just banging this down to get this off my chest really.

The last few days have been quite stressful. First ds1 got hit by the top of dd1's head under his chin, causing much bleeding of teeth and gums, and copious screams.Then ds2 got hit in the face by ds1 opening a door onto it, causing much bleeding and copious screaming. Then dd1 says her tooth is hurting. Visit to the dentist a few days later shows an abscess on ds1's tooth, possibly not helped by his accident, and that another tooth has broken down to the pulp. Antibiotics and a visit for offending teeth to be removed pending. Examining dd2 shows the tooth in question is a botch job by previous dentist, causing the filling to fall out and an infection to get in. Cue antibiotics and a repeat visit pending for fixing. Dh has a problem with the car door, then nearly gets run over by a mad harridan at the supermarket. He was on the zebra crossing, halfway across with the trolley when she decides to screech around him and up the kerb to get by. Dh tells her oi, she gives him the finger and tells him to f* off.

And tonight he gets a phone call from his mum to say his stepmother has died suddenly and unexpectedly.

Thanks for listening.

You have had a bad day!

Good that you can come on here though and get things off your chest - hope you feel the better for it - that's what it is all about.

Trouble shared, trouble halved and all that.

Hope the weekend is better.

Take care ( sympathy to your dh).

Oh lou - what a day.... hope getting it off your chest helped.

Sympathy to you and your family.

Hope the weekend sees a better time.

Thanks. Still got to break the news to the kids. We are supposed to be visiting in the summer holidays, and they were going to show them how to throw a pot (dh sm was a potter and his dad is an artist). I'm not sure if we will be going now, fil is obviously v distraught and refusing to let anyone to go to the funeral, so he may not be ready for a visit in July. It was all unexpected. I spoke to fil on the phone a few weeks ago to arrange the visit and he said his wife was very well (she had breast cancer some years ago but had been given the ok for the last 3 years at least). It must have happened without warning because her 2 children were away on holidays. They wouldn't have gone if they knew she was so ill.

lots of hugs and simpathy lou

So so sorry lou33.

Lou33 sorry to hear that you and your family are having a bad time. LOL to you

big hugs to you lou xxxxxxx

A bit of an update (very sad so be careful if you read further).

Apparently dh's stepmother and dh's dad had known since Christmas that her cancer had returned, but chosen not to tell anyone (not even the children they had together). She died yesterday when it was just her and fil, in their beautiful country garden, watching the sunset, holding hands. Makes me choke up just thinking about it. Fil is going to be totally lost without her I know, but the good news is that he has said he wants dh to attend the funeral, which is on Thursday.

Thanks for your messages everyone. x

Oh Lou, That is so sad but beautiful that they loved each other so much that they wanted the end to be like this. Lots of love to you all. oxo xxxxxx

Lou33 ... big hugs to you ... thinking of you at this sad time ... {{{}}}

Oh Lou, that is ever so sad but agree with oxo that it's a good way to go in the scheme of things.
Hard on the children though, I guess.
Anyway, thinking of you.

Lou, so sorry to hear your news. They sounded like lovely people in a very happy relationship. Cyberhugs to you all and hoping the teeth all mend soon.

Wishing you and your family all the best at this sad time, Lou. Love Cam

Thanks all. I think it is so terribly sad because it sounded so beautiful iyswim. I'm very touched by your support everyone, it is appreciated.

Lou - only just saw this. So very sad to read about it, she was a very brave lady. Take care you.

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Thinking of you and your family lou33. I hope all goes well when you have to tell the kids.

Thanks all, have told the kids now. the oldest two were sad about it, but the youngest two were too young to really understand. Dh is going down on Weds night for the funeral Thursday am (it's a 4 hour drive). He had an up and down relationship with his dad and stepmother growing up, but since the kids have arrived they began getting on really well. He's particularly upset because she never got to meet ds2. She was going to meet him for the first time this summer.

Dh has now set off on the drive to North Cornwall for the funeral tomorrow (we live in Surrey). Fil called him yesterday and asked him to be a pallbearer, which dh was very choked about, and obviously accepted. Fil has also realised he needs his family around him, so dh's half brother and sister are going, as well as his uncle. Wish I could be with him but it would be too hard keeping my youngest two quiet, they wouldn't have understood. Thanks for all your messages anyway.

Oh Lou, I missed this before, I'm so sorry and what a sad but touching story about her death. Best wishes.

Thanks www.

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Thanks everyone again. October they had a very difficult relationship for many years, but since our children arrived their feelings towards each other improved. I think they were both very fond of each other over the last 10 years or so. I know dh was very upset to find out she had died. He's called me to say he has arrived now. His uncle and fil's other children have arrived too.