OMG, I am so confused! Don't think you can help but had to 'tell' someone!

[albert]

I am so so confused I can't think straight. Following my recent post about making the right decision between moving to Brazil or staying in Venice for DH to do his Phd (thanks to all those who contributed), last night DH received a call from the people offering him the job in Brazil. They have upped the salary by 20%, added private medical insurance and given a months salary to do with as we like towards the move (relocation, rental whatever). It now also turns out that there are only 2 grants open to students for the Phd and thus the chances of DH getting one are quite slim to say the least.
If we stay in Venice for the Phd it will be for 2 years only then we have to move abroad to who knows were. We will not be able to survive on my salary alone once DH starts his studies so he will have to find work somehow.
If we leave I will have to quit my lovely job here obviously but there is a very high chance of me getting work in Brazil.
DS has one more year of nursery left before he starts 'formal' education but if we stay here it will be for 2 years so we would have to pull him out once he has started (and we don't really want to). If we go to Brazil he can complete his nursery education and start his formal education. He can already speak Portuguese as DH is Brazilian and only speaks in Portuguese to DS so language is not an issue. DH feels that this is a good opportunity for DS to feel his Brazilian culture first hand which is true.
But, and here's the crunch' I don't want to go but would not even consider splitting up our happy family (which some people have suggested!)
Oh, and we have to give an answer by Friday and DH would have to start work by end August!!
HELP

Right, decision has been made - we're off to Brazil. This is it's first official announcement, no-one else knows yet. My Mum will freak, so will my office but I know that you won't. DH will go mid August and DS and I will follow shortly thereafter once we have finalised the packing,shipping etc. I do feel relieved now the decision has been made but a little apprehensive about moving back to Brazil - last time I lived there I was in a shoot out on the local bus in which someone got badly shot and our house was burgled and everything of value stolen, plus of course countless problems with the 'outlaws' but this time will be different. I am determined to make this work and will be very upbeat and positive - with your help, although I might just collapse if MN is not available as a support system once we arrive, perish the thought

Hi albert! Ive just read this thread and wanted to say best of luck with it all really hope it works out for you

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My new mantra 'it will work, it will work' I'm damn well going to make it work!! Worst case senario is that DH gets the grant for the Phd now!

I hope he doesn't in a way, just because it makes it an easier decision. Bon Voyage and I hope you do get mumsnet!

Whereabouts in Brazil are you going Albert?

I think you have made the right decision. Good Luck for the future.