Carla... don't know your situation, honey, but just wanted to say good luck. I walked out of a marriage - which to the outside world looked the happiest ever - many years ago. I was scared to go to Relate, or whatever the equivalent was all those years ago, because I thought they'd try to persuade me to stay with him and I just knew I had to leave. But now I wish I'd talked to someone before doing it. I'd still have left. But I think that I might have been helped to do it in a less messy and hurtful way. I don't regret for a second ending the marriage, but I do regret the extent to which I hurt my ex-dh, who was fundamentally a good person.
Anyway, probably not relevant at all, but I just wanted to say good luck. I'd see the timing as symbolic ... new decade, new start.
As for positive feelings, I don't think that you can just manufacture them (you know, like when people say 'Oh come on, cheer up, it could be worse' ... and you want to hit them!). Positive feelings come from doing something positive... like going to Relate. Well done on having the courage to take this step.
Ellbell