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hannahsaunt · 21/05/2005 21:04

Comments / thoughts greatly appreciated on this one:

On (a very wet) Thursday, ds2 and I delivered Christian Aid envelopes and Make Poverty History postcards (freepost to send to Downing Street) to our allocated street.

Today ds1 and 2 returned with me to collect the envelopes and encourage people to consider sending the postcards. There were 44 houses in the street. 3 people contributed.

Of the remaining 41, several people were out. Fair enough! 8 said "No you didn't [put the envelopes through the door]" (!) daring me to say yes, I did. All refused one of my spares (including 1 who said "I don't think so" in a particularly rude way and shut the door in our faces. One man accused ds2 of breaking his gnome... One said, "It's in the bucket, yes that's right - in the bucket" in a really horrible, sneery way (this was the second last house and I nearly cried at this point).

It's not that I expected everyone to give - I didn't expect such outright hostility when the info on the envelope and the pc was straightforward, tied in with Make Poverty History etc. Iwould have been happy if they said we prefer not to give in this way or we prefer to give to different (types) of charity. I would have been very happy to engage in dialogue and answer questions if they were worried about the money only going to churches, only helping Christians, how much goes to the poor (as opposed to spent on advertising, admin etc) etc etc and happy if they had then decided that they didn't want to give but to lie, to be rude - I was flabbergasted.

This was a clearly affluent street in a well-off suburb. Ds1 was upset at the lack of engagement and I have spent the rest of the day alternating between being upset and really, really angry. Are people really so ignorant about development issues? How can it not be (if not a priority) at least a passing interest? How can people not want to at least know more?

Am I really so different in being passionate about this?

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hatsoff · 21/05/2005 23:31

hi hannahsaunt - well done you for doing your bit. don't feel dispirited by the reaction - on the doorsteps or here. it's obviously something people feel stromgly about but i dont think rudeness can be justified. i heard the doorbell when getting the girls ready for bed hassled etc but when i saw who it was never occured to me to do anything other than find my purse - even if i couldn't find my envelope. ok so it might not have been convenient but how could i stand on the doorstep of my lovely home, having just got my girls lovely and clean out of the bath, well fed and happy etc and say i haven't got time to find my purse. good job they caught me on a good day ay? wink

Gwenick · 21/05/2005 23:34

I can almost certainly guarantee that the anger was much less in those that didn't want to give to Christian aid than from those people who got Avon catalogues and didn't want them (trust me I've done both )

As as been mentioned there's still NO reason to be rude about it. I personally feel more harassed by charaties sitting smack bang outside Morrisons and Tesco who really ARE in my face (I NEED to go to the supermarket sometimes, but I have a CHOICE to open the door!)

hatsoff · 21/05/2005 23:36

I don't think knocking on your door is an invasion of your privacy - that's why we have doorbells and knockers. If people feel so strongly then put up a no charity callers notice (like the no free papers thing)

Tortington · 21/05/2005 23:40

whether you dislike people knocking at your door or not i find is a very rare occurance to be rude and never unless the other person is nothing less than a t*at. people who are rude to perfectly aimiable others are nothing but pigfeckers and the pigs dont even enjoy it.

hatsoff · 21/05/2005 23:41

lol custardo

Gwenick · 21/05/2005 23:41

custardo!!!

hannahsaunt · 22/05/2005 19:42

Several hit the nail on the head - it wasn't the fact that they didn't give - I avoid street collections at all costs because I prefer to give through dd to particular causes and don't want to be hassled into signing forms on the street - what I was upset at was the rudeness... I don't think the Avon lady or the Betterware man got as much grief as I got yesterday. I did put some thought into when would be a good time to call (having two small ones I wouldn't thank anyone for calling at tea time, bed time, in the evening when it's my time!) - after 11am on a Saturday morning seemed like a reasonable time and we avoided those who were obviously not up (I wish...). It would have been nice if they had either said no thank you or asked a few questions and then made up their minds.

PS Christian Aid doesn't aid churches or Christians - it's Christians inspired to aid anyone in need in developing countries...there are no caveats to receiving from them

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