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Wedding Cancellation Ettiquette

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flamesparrow · 13/05/2005 15:49

How late is bloody rude to cancel going to someone's wedding (main reception, not just evening)?????

And what reasons are "acceptable" ones?

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flamesparrow · 13/05/2005 16:42

Owwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!

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berolina · 13/05/2005 17:16

I cancelled 2 days before a friend's wedding because I'd just found out I was pg after an m/c 3 cycles previously, and was having to come quite a long way from abroad so was just too worried about anything going wrong (probably paranoid but there you are). My friend understood.

Mud · 13/05/2005 17:18

someone needs to put them in their place - can you mention something to a mutual friend or acquaintance and hope that the concept of manners spreads

find that quite disgusting and would want to withdraw their invitation personally

flum · 13/05/2005 17:20

can I come instead? i love weddings. i'll get you a nice gift (some hard cash perhaps)

floppsy · 13/05/2005 17:36

I think anyone who doesn't reply by the date you've asked is rude.My wedding last year a couple replied yes then only one of them turned up at the church,the reason he owned a shop ,he knew that before he replied thought being your own boss he could have found someone to cover & i had to pay for his meal that someone else could have had if they had let me know.Some people are very selfish!

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flamesparrow · 13/05/2005 19:41

Lol @ Flum and the cold hard cash

Have another friend who has said that she'd like to help me out with taking the place

Hopefully my mum has sorted it with our lovely hotel manager guy - he has been bending over backwards to help us, and I think he'll have a solution up his sleeve.

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Dior · 13/05/2005 19:44

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hunkermunker · 13/05/2005 19:45

Will let you know by Wednesday?!! FFS! Tell them they're not welcome to come any more as you've had to bump some people up the list and invited your binman and his missus and the dolly off the front of the dustcart, honestly some people!

That started serious and turned whimsical - but seriously, that happened to me (stupid bitch rang three days before the wedding and said she couldn't afford to buy a new outfit so she wasn't coming!).

LGJ · 13/05/2005 19:49

How unspeakably rude

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flamesparrow · 13/05/2005 19:50

You're joking!!!!

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LGJ · 13/05/2005 19:51

No I am not, I think it is rude

LGJ · 13/05/2005 19:51

BTW

I know it was for HM

Dior · 13/05/2005 19:52

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hunkermunker · 13/05/2005 19:57

Totally true. She lives alone now, lamenting no man in her life. She'll probably die alone, and her cat will eat her head before she's found. Do I care? No. I feel it is a small punishment for her rudeness at our wedding.

LGJ · 13/05/2005 20:09

Cat will eat her head........PMSL

How very Christian of you

CountessDracula · 13/05/2005 20:11

I had to cancel going to one (one I really really wanted to go to ) as I was diagnosed with Glandular Fever the day before. I was mortified but it was a long trip to S. Devon and I could barely even make it to the corner shop! Felt terrible tho.

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flamesparrow · 13/05/2005 20:25

Awww, is that fair on the cat?

The one non-reply that REALLY bugged me was a girl who got married last summer (so knows how important numbers are) - and we had to PHONE her to find out if she was coming!!!

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Prufrock · 13/05/2005 21:34

My dh's cousin called him 2 days before or wedding to see if dh could organise a lift for him. he seemed quite miffed when dh said he had better things to do at that time.

ionesmum · 13/05/2005 21:47

flamesparrow, my aunt and uncle forbade my cousin from coming to our wedding after they'd had a row, so my dad rang them and told them that they weren't welcome (because they are horrid and my cousin is lovely, and they have no say over who comes to my wedding, thank you)and he invited one of his old mates to come with his wife instead. If you can think of anyone who wouldn't be offended at being asked so late, invite someone else and tell your friends to bog off. So rude!

prufrock!

bossykate · 14/05/2005 14:40

what about cellar gascon

bossykate · 14/05/2005 14:40

oops, wrong thread

stitch · 14/05/2005 15:39

i always find this very wierd. why do they have to find someplace to stay? whats wrong with crashing on the floor at your house? they could bring bedding if needed?
at my wedding. we had, under one roof:
mom dad and us four sisters.
aunt with four kids, eldest 22.
aunt uncle with three kids
aunt uncle with five kids
aunt uncle with three kids
brother in law
fivemore adults.
no one minded sleepping on the floor sofa's cushions, any flat surface. it was fun, all part of the occasion.
oh, and that was just in one house. had another load of relatives in my other uncles house.
maybe its a culture thing.

stitch · 14/05/2005 15:41

thats 34 people and thehouse was not a mansion. four bedroom, normal sized house.
and tent may be a joke, but i think some of the boys did sleep in the garden, it was summer, cousins were together, it was a laugh

moondog · 14/05/2005 15:47

Bloody hell,how big is your house stitch!!

Fs,how incredibly rude! Who are they-relatives or (ex) friends? How many are there?

stitch · 14/05/2005 15:50

moondog, its just a normal fourbedroom house. my aunts hoouse, not my parents.
and as i said, you just crash on the floor. bedsheet on the carpet, pillow or cushion if your lucky. you can easily fit two people on a pillow. and an normal size sofa can sleep two people, end on end.
it was a squash, and dont even ask about the bathrooms, but that was all part of the fun!