CAN CHILDREN REALLY BE EXPECTED TO BE QUIET??

[Fio2]

IN THEIR OWN HOME???

she's clearly insane. you do get them.

Why do the elderly complain sooooo much?

I will probably do it myself when I hit 70

My ds is quiet while I am working (I teach music)- but he is an only child, and dh reads to him and plays quiet games with him, it is also at the end of the day when he is quiet anyway. Without constant supervision he would not be this quiet and I have had to come to terms with the fact that no cooking or cleaning will take place during this time.

But I wouldn't expect 2 children to be quiet whilst sharing the same space.

Fio I had this a few months ago about DD2 who is 2.5 has asthma which effects her quite bad in the winter and was up alot through the night, my neighbour asked me to try keep her from crying in the middle of the night as it was keepin her awake so me being the soft arse that I am moved her in to DD1's room on the other side of the house.....

but on the upside Neighbour is now pregnant Canny wait to see what happens when shes kept up all night with her own kid

Fio, she is clearly a lonely old lady for a good reason - her constant complaints must have alienated all remaining family and friends.
I believe the early stages of dementia can also make people very irascible and argumentative.
It must be so hard and so annoying for you, but I suspect the only thing you can do is bite your tongue and accept that she is being unreasonable. From what you say about her irrationality, attempting to discuss it with her is not going to work. Maybe she is related to Twiglett's mad boxer lady or the interesting soul in a giant crocheted tam o shanter who accosted dh at church on Sunday and wanted to know all about the children in slightly creepy detail...
I'm sure you don't need me to reassure you that you do not need to carpet your lounge or stop your children playing, FGS.
In an ideal world you'd move and sublet to a pile of antisocial tossers from UKC. That would soon make her realise that families with little children are actually desirable, friendly neighbours if you can be bothered to put up with a bit of squealing and laughter (ok, and bawling).

At our last house, we got on very well with the neighbours. They were fine about any noise the children made until their adult daughter met some American on the internet and they got married. He moved in and then proceeded to complain that we were too noisy every morning. Anything he found in the back "yard" was obviously thrown there by our children, etc. It got to the point that any noise made by my children made my stomach tense as I expected him to come round and complain. I was thrilled when we moved - even though we'd had the house about 12-13 years before he moved in with never a word of complaint in either direction (the dad used to do wood carving using very loud electrical equipment).

Our current neighbours are great. They say they love to hear the sound of children !! How great is that?? Their adult son called round yesterday about something and I invited him in for coffee. He then regaled me with tales of what he'd got up to as a child, plus his parents used to foster very difficult children who got up to all sorts too. So I now have ammunition should ours do anything more than is usually expected from children .

If your neighbour continues to complain, I would simply say "I'm sorry you're upset" and walk away. Eventually she'll get fed up - hopefully.

I have come to the conclusion she is insane

oh and the other thing she said was she didnt like people moving in from out the area ffs

Ha ha, that's a Thanet thing don't you think Fio? Local "attractions and facilities" for local people! Sorry, it's not really that funny.

inter breeding seems quite popular

sorry i shouldnt have posted that

LOL its just round the corner they havedeveloped a lovely building but people from 'outside' are buying the 'apartments' and they all moan and moan about it. I think it is a brilliant idea to get money into the town, but no they all moan, her in particular

Yeah, i'd bite your tongue if you can - if you really can't, try contacting your local council or CAB about mediation? A friend of mine tried it and although it wasn't hugely successful she thought it had an effect in the end (she was complaining about her neighbour's wind chimes)

At first I typed mediation as 'medication'. Always worth a try, can you access her water supply?

Nah!

The ONLY money coming to that part of the world comes from commuters and other off-comers it seems to me, Fio. They ought to be pleased at some new additions to the gene pool...

I KNOW Marina!

errr....yes that what the playstation is for duhhhhh. i cant believe you let your children play in the old fashioned sense...outside.

hows it going with neibours now fio2?

If you don't like the sound of cocks crowing, don't live in the countryside.

If you don't like the sound of normal kids playing normally (ie not computer-generated-sound-enhanced blaring noisy toys).... MOVE!

oooo how annoying....

When I first read the thread title I thought "Yes children can, and should sometimes, be expected to play quietly" but then I read about this silly old bag and thought what utter rubbish.

DS1 is 4.5yrs old and, yes, sometimes I DO ask him to play quietly - and he does do it - but as a general rule as long as he's not shouting and screaming the house down while playing I let him get on with it,

We've got an eldery neighbour too - but (thankfully) although he's 76 and lives alone he's also got 6 children, about 10 grandchildren and 5 great grandchildren - who often visit him and so he's quite happy for the boys to play noisly outside - he's even said if their ball goes into his garden just to open the gate and get it (old terraced houses with the 'path' throught he back to get the bins out).

hello everyone
i think it is really hard to keep children quiet especially babies.
I recently went to my partners dads wedding and we took lewis our five week old baby to show all the relatives and plus its his first grandchild. well i was tottally shockedwhen i got asked to sit at the back of the church om my own with lewis in case he cried!! to be honest i was quite offended by this and in the end i just went and sat in the car during the service and then at the reception during the meal he started crying and i ended up going to my hotel room as i was feed up with all the dirty looks i was getting.At the end of the day they wanted us to bring him and so should have been prepared for him to cry especially as he has colic.

well I put my bin out on accident, as they are doing fortnightly collections. Someone had shoved the bin back up the alleyway and me not realising I took it back down again. Then when i got back from dropping my son off she had shoved a photocopy of the 'new' bin collection dates through my door, with a little note on the front saying ITS FORTNIGHTLY COLLECTION NOW and her name at the bottom. Honestly I have seen red. i saw her on the back earlier and totally ignored her. I feel like i am walking on pins, i have shouted at my kids in the morning the last two mornings for being noisy I left my bin out as I am a rebel like that.......

why are people so bloody interested in everyone else

I wouldnt mind, but its constant and I have danced to her tune before but she does find 'new' things to moan about. i think its a step too far when she moans about my kids. After all dd is out of the house from 8am til 4pm and ds goes mornings to nursery and I am very quiet when i am on my own. urgh

oh no i swore

She sounds like she needs to get a hobby.

oh caligula thats a fab idea. fio2 you should get a copy of the local college courses and shove through her door with a note that says "something else to interest you"