what do i do..........

[sliverx2]

My ds #2 of 11months he been walking for about 3 months he is a big boy, seem to be always coved in mark's and bruies on his legs and forehaed, only due to himself being too active.
I'm so worried about going out and someone seeing him and saying something or worse telling someone ( you know who i mean!!).

what do i do i can't sit him in his chair all day long. what make's it worse if that some one dose come round there going to think it's me as i have PND.

please some one tell me that there children are/where the same.

or am i worring too much??

Sliverx2 - I'm sure anybody that has children will know how accident prone they can be ESPECIALLY when they start toddling. I have often thought about that too. How easy would it be to have someone accuse you of doing something wrong.

I really think you have nothing to worry about. THere are much more serious signs of abuse than a few bumps and bruises caused be toddling. Are you getting treatment for your PND. I have been suffering with it for nearly 2 years now. Thankfully I'm MUCH better now, but didn't go 'public' and admit it until December 2002. Anxiety and feelings of this sort are commonly associated with it.
Have you told your HV/GP?

sliverx2 - try not to worry, most children have bruises and bumps as soon as they are mobile, it is to be expected, especially if they are adventurous. My ds was the same from when he could cruise, he was the sort that was always on the go, and whilst other mum's children seemed content to play at their feet, he was off and into everything!!! I suffered from PND with dd and also felt I would be judged on everything that happened, I know it's difficult but try not to be so hard on yourself, I am sure you are doing a great job.

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hi sliver,believe me youve got nothing to worry about im sure if you ask your hv shell tell you the same,you just have to look around when youre out and youll see lots of toddlers with bumps on their head or bruises on their legs,my children are constantly covered in them,dont worry!!

hi sliver
I'm glad you posted about this - my ds is just starting to stand/trying to walk and continually falls on his nose etc which makes me feel really bad but what can we do? Wrapping them up in bubble wrap would be nice but maybe not too safe? I feel like any injury is commented on by the entire world and his wife but am learning just to shrug it off. what's worse - some of the injuries really aren't self inflicted at all - we once dropped a spoon on his head and gave him a black eye - guilt is my middle name
I have friends who have reported neighbours to the services for abuse and can reassure you that this was for serious stuff - punching in stomach right in front of them etc - and even then the social services acted v slowly to make sure it was not just an accident prone toddler.

yes i.m on AD for my PND, WILL BE COMING OFF THEM SOON SO THE DOC TELL'S ME. it,s really nice to know i'm not on my own with this, it's so hard not to worrie about your kid's, when poeple have funny idears about you and how you match up to being a mother, some mum have it easy that great but some of us find it so hard, even when we are doing our best. i really do love being a mum but it's not easyist of things, even more so with all the worries, and they are usurelly about other poelpe on how they see you.

Remember you will always see yourself in a worse light than others will. It's human nature. It's easy to say but try not to worry about what others think and only what your child/ren and family think of you. They are the ones that matter.