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Tried to be friendly to neighbour - not sure if I've done the right thing

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SPARKLER1 · 04/05/2005 16:28

I noticed at the weekend that the couple that live opposite us were carrying a baby into their house. We never really speak to them apart from the odd hello or wave from the car. I never even realised that they were expecting.
I popped a note through her door earlier to say the above and to congratulate them on their new addition to the family. I also mentioned that I was a FT mum and was home most of the time. If she would like a bit of adult conversation and a cuppa to give me a shout.
Not sure if I have done the right thing as I get the impression that they like to keep themselves to themselves.

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tarantula · 04/05/2005 16:30

Well its no harm done if they dont answer but it might be that they are both very shy and that shell be over the moon to meet someone friendly nearby. Id have loved if someone had done this for me when I was at home with dd.

MarsLady · 04/05/2005 16:30

The worst is that they'll ignore the note or they'll be pleased that you noticed and you could've made new friends. You did a nice thing

starlover · 04/05/2005 16:30

sparkler, PMSL if it wasn't their baby!
Maybe they're scared of all that farting from your house last night?www.tiewarehouse.co.uk/index.php?cPath=29

on a more serious note, I think that's a really nice thing to do! Not enough people make friends with their neighbours IMO. If they wanna keep themselves to themselves then fine... if not you've made a new friend!

starlover · 04/05/2005 16:31

ignore the bloody link.
it's my retarded mouse

Freckle · 04/05/2005 16:31

Or they'll say thanks for the offer but our niece goes back next week .

Seriously, it was a lovely thing to do. Many new mums have no idea how to make friends once they leave the work place.

northerner · 04/05/2005 16:32

I think you've done the right thing. The ball is in her court now and if she wants to be friends she will pop round.

If it were me, I'd be really touched and I'd be round like a shot

swiperfox · 04/05/2005 16:35

I think you've done the right thing - I wish our neighbours were like that - I've tried to be friendly with our neighbours as we dont have any family or friends near here but our street is full of miserable gits!! (or maybe they just dont like us!!!!!)

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SPARKLER1 · 04/05/2005 16:48

I did wonder if it was their's the other day .
Without trying to look like the local neighbourhood watch, I have been looking over to their house on and off and I'm sure I can see a winnie the pooh thing hanging in a bedroom window.
They have got a kiddie sunshade in the back of the car too!!

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SPARKLER1 · 04/05/2005 16:50

PMSL Starlover - couldn't go past without being nosey at the link. I quite like the scarlet colour bow tie.
Hey at least you weren't browing a porn site or something!!!!!!!

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Aero · 04/05/2005 16:59

I've just had my first coffee with a neighbour who's recently had a new baby and I had no idea she was pregnant. They also seemed to keep themselves to themselves, but that could be said for lots of us I think - not for any particular reason.
I bumped into her in the road and mentioned I might have a few bits and pieces which might be useful to her. She was delighted and I took said items over.
She called at my door with huge box of biscuits a few days later (this could be a beautiful friendship!!) leaving a thank-you note with her phone number inside. We had coffee and a chat last Thursday morning and it was lovely. Think she enjoyed it too and we'll meet again. So what I'm trying to say (in a very garbled way) is, you did a lovely thing and if you happen to see her in the street, say hello and invite her over. I'm sure it'll be worth it.

moschops · 04/05/2005 17:23

wish i lived near some of you.......have lived here nearly three years and admittedly its mostly old folk on our road (who miraculously stopped being grumpy and started being a little bit too friendly as soon as they realised i am pregnant).......hope to meet some like minded mums to be at antenatal next week....

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SPARKLER1 · 04/05/2005 22:23

Where are you Moschops?

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darlingbud · 04/05/2005 22:25

I think thats lovely. At least she knows the offer is there. If she doesn't take you up on it then at least you tried.

Nemo1977 · 04/05/2005 22:27

sparkler thats lovely wish i loved close to u too..lol Whne i had ds i noticed someone else in our road about 5 houses down with a baby a couple of months older..still havent had courage to talk to them

LGJ · 04/05/2005 22:30

How lovely

I first got to meet my neighbour, when we were both PG, me 3 months ahead of her, we used to chat, but when her DS was born I sent her down a load of stuff, she responded with a bottle of gin, a bottle of wine and some flowers.

We opened the wine there and then, oh happy days when the Ds's stayed where they were put,anyway I digress we have been firm at a distance friends ever since. We see each other once a week or so not fixed and if one or other of us has had a bad day it generally involves a large red.

So this could be the start of something.

moschops · 05/05/2005 09:23

i'm in Lincolnshire........to be honest moving to this little town was the best thing we ever did, and i do have friends here but they all work. and i'm the first one to fall pg.
as soon as we decided to try for a family i booked driving lessons and am hoping to pass my test before Xmas. i have friends in other towns/villages but they don't drive and the public transport system is a) practically non-existant and b) scarier than a roller coaster!

was discussing with dp the other day how naive i was to think certain friendships wouldn't change just because i'm pregnant.

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SPARKLER1 · 09/05/2005 11:29

I was out mowing the lawn in the front garden just now and my neighbour came over and said she would love to get together for a coffee and thanked me for asking. I feel really chuffed with myself now.
I also told her that I got to parent and toddler groups and if she feels like it she is welcome to come along with me to meet other mums with young babies.
See it's worth making the effort isn't it?

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Janh · 09/05/2005 11:35

LGJ, lol at the bottles of gin and wine for you after she'd had hers!

Janh · 09/05/2005 11:37

Sorry, Sparkler, meant to say I think that was lovely of you - especially doing it, not just thinking and wondering about it and then never getting around to it, which tends to be my style. Hope this is the start of a beautiful friendship

handlemecarefully · 09/05/2005 12:24

Well done Sparkler! There's a lesson to us all - it helps to be friendly and make the first move

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