Hi
I just want to get this off my chest and see if anyone has been in the same position.
I did not return to work after maternity as I could not work full time and then they offered me under 16 hours which was not enough. So the job centre say I left voluntarily so I cant get any money. They are still processing it though and so housing wont help me until Job centre have decided. Argggh!!!
(I got told to get a crisis loan but I don?t think I?ll qualify looking at the criteria and obviously you have to pay it back.)
I?m really angry, what?s the point in working hard if you cant get any help when you need it! I?m scared I wont be able to afford basic things like baby milk, never mind rent and bills. There is no one to talk to and the Job centre say they will get back to me but that can take up to a week for a call back! I understand that people working at these places are just doing a job and going through the protocol that they have to but I wish there was someone who would just listen and not pass me on!
On top of that my boyfriend admitted to being an alcoholic three months ago. He has hurt me by messaging girls explicit things on the internet and Ive had a very rough time with him. Normally I would forgive/forget something like this if it were a one off but on top of everything it feels ten times worse. I?ve tried so hard to keep us going and it breaks my heart. But its my loyalty that seems to be constantly tested (he?s very good at that) but I?m wise to it now and wont let myself be emotionally controlled anymore.
We have a joint tenancy agreement but he wont leave. I would move but that will use up all the savings (I have some savings left but that wont last long) and I might need this to survive! I?m very confused and don?t know where to turn. I cant live with family either.