Dunno where this should be, but how do I stop well meaning "advice" on the new baby?!!?

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My mum has informed us many times since announcing we were trying for a new baby, and since getting pregnant that we just shouldn't let the new baby in our bed because then we wouldn't have any of the sleep issues with have with Flameboy.

We were never in her bed, she never had issues with us.

I have tried to point out on each occasion that DD was also in our bed as a baby, but from 6 months she no longer wanted to and has never been an issue since. Therefore imo it is down to the child having sleep problems and not the bed sharing.

I am fairly sure murder isn't the answer here.

Do i just have to grin and bear it?

yes you do

but in all seriousness sleep issues are nothing to do with co-sleeping; as you say it is to do with the baby/child

i think you say to your mum that you will co-sleep and parent your way -

Well, I read some advice the other day which I rather liked regarding unsolicited and shite advice proffered by paretals. It went like this.

Ask LOTS of advice. At least 4 things per hour that you are with them. They will be so chuffed and so pre-occupied that they will not notice you are taking no notice whatsoever.

Got to be worth a try? Gritting your teeth will not work ime.

She couldn't breastfeed, and imo that makes a big difference - we have never co-slept for any bonding reason, it has all been about me being able to latch on and pass out again

If I could fix DS though that could help.....

Grit your teeth, smile & nod!

Then just go ahead and do it yourway anyway.

I've only recently learnt that this is the best thing to do!

Liking the lots of advice thing, I should do that with MIL. She is very offended that I haven't called her to ask for help or advice during any pregnancy. My mum tried to point out that I didn't ask her either, I just went with my friends and that was how she thought it should be... didn't go down well!

Yep, you nod and say "yes mum" and then do your own thang.

"I'll bear that in mind" is the most useful response I know. It can be used in just about any situation, from close relatives to complete strangers, it's polite and it effectively closes the conversation without either agreeing or disagreeing.

The lots of advice works with my MIL.
Don't need it with my own Mumm luckily as she can remember bugger all about my infancy. I would think I was a foundling if we weren't so alike.