I'm a bit worried about my sisters wedding reception.

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, my sister is getting married soon. She's only met my 4 year old daughter once.
I'm just wondering wether she'll be able to sit next to us at the reception?
She has lots of children attending. I'm not sure if she plans for all the children to be together on one table?
There is no way ny daughter would sit with other children, she won't at nursery partys. She loves adult company and is not good with other children, unless they are much younger.
I'm going to have to ask my sister but she's feeling a bit stressed as it is.
I just don't want my daughter making a fuss at the reception.
What would you do if she says that the children will be all together ?

I would be very surprised if the kids were all together without their parents.

smile and nod and then do what you need to on the day

no one will care by then

Ring her up and offer to help with 'stuff' - which as her sister you should be doing anyway - then as an aside you can say 'Oh and Lucy (I assume) will be sitting with us won't she, I would prefer that as she is shy with children she doesn't know'

Job done.

She dosn't live near us. I'm wrighting a poem for her wedding. She has a wedding planner, so shouldn't really be too stressed.

I would imagine the wedding planner will be experienced enough to steer her away from putting small children on a table on her own. I'm sure no one will notice if you pull up an extra chair for Lucy on the day though.

I have too sisters, they are from my Dads second marrage. I used to see them every week at my Dads house. His new wife has never liked me, although I've always seeked her approvel from a very young age.
At my wedding 6 years ago, both my sisters were bridesmaids.
After my daughter was born though, I invited them all around for a meal and to meet Lucy. Only Dada came though and when ever I mentioned going to his to see the girls etc, he looked uncomfortable and made it clear that he'd come to me instead. I asked i the girls would like to come, but they never did. I invited them all to the christening, which they didn't attend.
I just thought sod them then. We lost contact, then I found them on facebook recently and it was as if nothing had happened, we'd just lost touch. She's been around with her future husband and has finnally seen Lucy. (better late than never)

Dada ?? I meant Dad.

I have never ever been to a wedding where children were seated together without parents. Do you have any particular reason to think that your sister is contemplating this seating arrangement? Because if not then I think you are worrying unnecessarily.

I think she might have mentioned something, I can't remember though. (I'd had a few)

If she said "have the children sitting together" she almost certainly meant "have the families that include children sitting together", not "wrest the children away from their parents and stick them in the corner"

Yes, that's fine. It must sound confusing, it is a to me too.
I'm really glad we're in touch again.
I will mention it to her and if needs be, we'll just pull up a chair.

I've spoken to my sister and the little ones are sitting with there parents and the older children are together. So that's good. I can relax now.