erm, my mum and dad never seeming to bother about my kids pissed me off. It upset me but I tried to just think "feck em, their loss" until one phone conversation when my mother objected to my idea of taking my kids to see my grandad. when she realised I was cross, she said she was "just trying to protect him"
PROTECT HIM???!!!! from my kids??!! I hit the roof!
Anyway, to cut a long series of ranty phone calls story short, I told her exactly what i thought of that, and my opinion of them as grandparents (shit). to my amazement, they held their hands up to it, apologised and have gone out of their way to make amends since. They're really trying.
It's early days and they may revert, I suppose, but I'll deal with that if it happens. For now, I'm watching. And taking notes And pleased that they cared enough to take responsibility and to make the changes. Cos I told them - do what you like, either you're grandparents or you're not, up to you.