Anyone elses dh lost their job in this recession, and feel like they are only just holding it together?

[MrsFreud]

I haven't seen many posts on this, but it such a big thing and I wondered how anyone else out there is doing? Once the initial shock wears off there is a real drive to cut back and help dh find a job etc...but now that's worn off I'm left just worrying.

This recession going to last a long time, I'm resigned to it now but I feel like I have to put a face on for the kids and poor dh??

Anyone else out ther got any thoughts?

My boyfriend works in the car trade......it's imminent I'm guessing. Won't be easy to get a new job either. Local paper here has gone from 7 pages to 1

Me and ex p have split up, partly hastened by his risky job security and wage cuts which is making him crack up. (He's also a twunt BTW but the economic situation put more pressure on us).

I did, and I am not keeping it together very well unfortunately

yep a couple of weeks ago.

And the gas/elec bill has just come thru adn the new water bill and teh new council tax bill.

I have no idea how we are going to pay for them.

We have benefit app in and jobseekers but I know they are taking longer and longer cos of the number of people applying.

I can't pay next months rent without the benefits coming through.

we're going to spend tomorrow phoning round trying to sort stuff out but I don't know.

Tis all shit and stress.

Dp was ouor main wage.

There might not be many posts yet MrsFreud but MN HQ have seen fit to create a whole new topic on redundancy. Which is a bloody sad state of affairs.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/redundancy

Tis all shit and stress indeed.

My dp is a scaffolder and hes been out of work for 3 months, its really crap. We had a bit of savings but that went the first month, jobseekers give us £94 week for us and 2 dc,s its ridiculous it doesnt even cover our mortgage

And yes its VERY stressful and i cant sleep for worry.

that sounds hideous I'm glad we rent because at least we can claim housing benefit.

Dp's work are being arses though - they still haven't sent his p60 which means we can't even claim for half the stuff (or at least they won't process the claim until they receive it).

He can't even get hold of anyone there

My DH was made redundant last August. The company went into liquidation so no redundancy payout.
We were very fortunate and he managed to get another job within a month, but 6 months later we are only just getting back on track with mortgage and bills.
We had no income for the month he was out of work and then he had to work a month in hand.
I know we are VERY lucky that DH found a job so quickly but it is scarey to think that loosing 2 months money took us over 6 months to catch up on.
My thoughts and prayers go out to everyone going through this, I have never been so worried or stressed out before.
I know my story must sound silly as there are alot of people who have been out of work for much longer, I just wasnt expecting the knock on effect it would have on us.

Mine is still in work but has been made redundant twice already - a year ago and 6 years ago. The first time it took him 14 months to get another job and e had to move too. That was a long 14 months! Now he is panicking that its all going to happen again and he's no younger. What can I do?
They say you should save up to have 6 months "emergency" money in savings.

hi my husband is a bricklayer he was self employed but theres no work he got payed off in oct and we were not entitled to anything because we are both self employed.i am a childminder.he has got a job on the buses now so will get some money coming in soon thank god.luckily we had just remorgaged so we had some extra money left we are using overdraft now.but it is really worrying that we all pay taxes and i have two children and they would not even give us job seekers allowance.

My DH hasn't been paid for 8 weeks. What's worse is the company isn't in administration, it's just having 'delicate financial negotiations'. Despite grievance letters and threats of employment tribunals, nothing's forthcoming.

Luckily I work FT but I really feel for DH's colleagues who are the breadwinners. They say you can lose your home within 3 months of losing your job...for these guys it could be 4 weeks away. Because they are not in administration, they can't find other work or sign on cos they're still officially 'employees'.

My dh has been out of work for 6 months - luckily I work, but I don't earn much. Its not just the money but other things as well.

Its weird having him in the house all the time, its like its not my domain anymore - and we've nothing to talk about except my work. We need a break from each other I think!!

I can't see the building trade picking up for a long time, how do I stop him getting depressed??