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is this a little bit sick??

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PinkFluffySocks · 27/02/2009 17:32

DH asked in work 2day for time off for a funeral next week of a close friend and work have said for it not to go down as a no show he has to bring in an order of service he asked politly what if they dont have an order of service because not everyone does it and that its going to be a massive funeral with standing room only so he may not be able to get one and work have replied you ll have to bring in a death certificate

is it only me who thinks its a little bit sick to ask that? (fair enough bout order of service but the certificate??)

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solidgoldbullet4myvalentine · 27/02/2009 17:36

Is your DH a bit prone to skiving, or does he have a very unhealthy social circle (ie has had two or three days off for funerals in the past year or so?) Because it is a cheeky sort of request, and an unreasonable one - as the funeral is for his friend, your DH has no right to the death cert and certainly shouldn't ask the dead person's partner/parents for a copy.
Actually, his workplace is unreasonable full stop. Either he can take the time off, which he has asked for, or he can't, because they can't spare him, end of (unless he's implied he will throw a sicky if they won't let him go or something).

worley · 27/02/2009 17:36

oh for goodness sake. some places just have no morals really,
my work wouldnt let a colleague have the afternoon off to go to her mother in laws funeral!!! after she threatened to get the union involved they let her, and this is the NHS.

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PinkFluffySocks · 27/02/2009 17:39

he had a funeral back last April For my grandmothers funeral but thats it he s a hard worker and has had hardly nytime off. the only other time off he had recently was in november when DS had a fit and was in hosp for a week.

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ForeverOptimistic · 27/02/2009 17:39

Please tell me who he works for and what position the numpty who asked for this is in?

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PinkFluffySocks · 27/02/2009 17:41

i cant believe they could be so unreasonable. he didnt want to pull a sicky he wanted to be honest about why he was going to be off, he was going to go in on the morning but just finish early.

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MyTwopennorth · 27/02/2009 17:41

How odd. Are they having trouble with people taking time off to go to non-existant funerals?

Having said that, my dad did take a day off work for his uncle's funeral that he had no intention of attending I thought that was terrible of him!!

madlentileater · 27/02/2009 17:42

ask them to phone the crematorium to comfirm.

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PinkFluffySocks · 27/02/2009 17:43

he asked his team supervisor, (i think) it could have been his manager? but it was the person he was supposed to go and ask and they write a request for it and a descision comes back. but this was all said before a request was made!

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PinkFluffySocks · 27/02/2009 17:45

its just so fustrating that he s tried to do the right thing and not pull a sicky and its ended up with him looking as if he wants to skive!!!! im so angry

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PinkFluffySocks · 27/02/2009 17:48

oooof im so angry im having to have a cuppa tea!!!!!!!!!!1 (i only drink it when im stressed!! )

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Lulumama · 27/02/2009 17:54

tell his work to phone the funeral home/ church where it is being held for confirmation?

that is terrible

QOD · 27/02/2009 17:56

IS he expecting to be paid whilst he is off?
I know we only get compassionate leave for direct relatives.
If he's expecting to be paid, I can see why they'd ask, if not then OMG how very dare they!

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PinkFluffySocks · 27/02/2009 18:01

thing is about work phoning is that he could have picked any random funeral out of the paper you have to be pretty sad to do that but still the death of his friend was front page of news paper (sadly his friend hung himself) nut altho this sounds really harsh and i dont mean it that way it still doesnt prove anything.

if he pulls a sicky now its obvious, its not about losing a days pay or anything its just that he wanted them to know it wasnt a sicky and that both of us believe honsety is the best policy but in this case its not. they way things are with the company people being laid off etc he didnt want to lie and not only that its sods law he d catch one of the bugs going around and then he would be in trouble little bit stuck on what to do. he cant afford to be sacked there is no work in our area but he wants to pay his respects to his friend

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SalBySea · 27/02/2009 18:02

I've always produced either obits or death certs when taking compassionate leave for funerals - when I was a NOK I got lots of copies of the death cert to give to friends and family who needed them for time off, when my uncle died my aunt did the same and gave us one as we had to take a few days off for travel so AFAIK its pretty much the done thing and your employers are not being unreasonable

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PinkFluffySocks · 27/02/2009 18:07

i can see what mean sal by sea and esp if people are claiming funerals when they're off etc but i think its pretty sad that it has to be done
you were probs writing when i posted last thread and you ll understand that if it was a family member a death cert wouldnt be too bad to ask for (not nice but possible) but as its a friend the parents of him would have to get hundreds coppied.

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cat64 · 27/02/2009 18:19

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SalBySea · 27/02/2009 18:22

I guess if the last few people who asked for time off for funerals at his work place were like me and always submit evidence before being asked, then the boss would be expecting him to do the same and would feel justified in asking

solidgoldbullet4myvalentine · 27/02/2009 18:43

Has he used up all his holiday? Or is he in one of those jobs that doesn't give paid holiday? OK I have not had a full-time salaried job for 10 years but when I did, if I wanted time off for anything, I booked a day's holiday and it was none of their farking business whether I spent it attending a funeral or playing with myself. (THough did once, actually, have to miss a funeral as there was just no way I could be spared from work on the day but in the end it was my choice to skip the funeral and keep the job).

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