alleged paedophile in my daughters social circle!!

[Littleblue]

An old friend contacted me online recently to tell me her daughter was having flashbacks re alleged abuse 10 years previously when she was 4+.
We were all in and out of each others houses/lives back then..and when this came up,one of the only three men who would have had the opportunities as were described by this girl was my exe,by whom i have a daughter the same age!
She has now recalled,whilst in an institution after repeated self harming and suicidal behaviours,who this man was..not my exe thank god!..but she doesnt want anything done,and my friend is going bonkers with frustration,but doesnt know how to pursue justice,without repercussions for her nearly destroyed daughter,who is autistic(aspergers)

This man,is in my exes social circle,and my daughter,who is 16,sees him regularly,and hes on her facebook.
I dont think shes ever had any problems with him..but whats to be done i wonder..how to tell the local plod without implicating this girl?

How old is he? If he is a friend of your Exes then is he not a bit old to be on her Facebook??

You cannot implicate the man without cold hard proof but I would surely find a way to monitor your daughters contact with him. Is it not a bit odd for a grown man to be friends with a 16 year old girl on Facebook? Does she post pictures of her mates etc?

I can totally understand your alarm.

hmm i would tread very carefully tbh!
i don't think ANYTHING can be done without the consent of the person making the allegations, or at least involving her in some way. otherwise they would never, ever be able to investigate it would they?

just be careful though. there have been 2 stories recently in our local rag naming and picturing "alledged" child abusers. both of whom turned out to be innocent.

these kind of allegations can ruin people's lives, so i think the mother needs to be as sure as she can before involving the police

I would approach your local public protection team and ask to speak to them in confidence. you'll be able to get hold of them through the police on their local number. there is plenty of support out there for the daughter too. I for one have supported victims who present with autism.

I guess he is in his forties..i never actually met him..and yes,im treading very carefully indeed!!..i dont know why hes on my daughters list,i cant think of a way of asking her that doesnt look false...

Public protection?..il look into it,neither i,nor the girl that suffered the alleged abuse,live in the same locale anymore.

I guess he is in his forties..i never actually met him..and yes,im treading very carefully indeed!!..i dont know why hes on my daughters list,i cant think of a way of asking her that doesnt look false...

Public protection?..il look into it,neither i,nor the girl that suffered the alleged abuse,live in the same locale anymore.