my mum is 74, she's young and fit for her years but I'm beginning to notice that she is slowing down. She lives 150-odd miles away but still comes to visit most months - determined to maintain close contact with her gcs. I love her to bits, she is the most wonderful, fantastic mum and granny I could ever wish for. I am realising that the time is coming when our roles will gradually shift - from her helping me out, to me helping her. I am resolved to visit her more often, so that she doesn;t have to make that long trip so often, but apart from that what else can I do from a distance? I would be happy to pay for a bit of help for her, in the garden or the house, (we are in a better financial position than her, she's not skint but she's not flush either) but I feel a bit uncomfortable about this, and suspect she might too, and don't know how to broach it. has anyone been in a similar situation?