I haven't a clue as to where i should have put this really... Basically i have a neighbour who is very odd, around my children, and i'm a little worried,
Firstly, when he and his wife first moved in about 3mths ago he came round and introduced himself, said they'd boguht the house next door etc etc, then the next day he knocked on the door and had a toy bus and something for my DD (can't remember what as it was DH who was in then), they weren't new, he said he'd found them while unpacking and thoguht the kids would like them, later that day we were going out and he said hello over the fence, we said hello back, he then started saying He loves kids, he has a grandson that he doesn't see becasue his own (grown up) DC's dont want to know him (didn't say why but makes me wonder) went on to say how he'd been a sigle dad to them for X years and brought them up, as soon as they were 16 they left and he's not seen them since.... we were wondering why he was telling us all this, then he goes on to tell us how he loves kids again and that if we ever need a babysitter he'll have them.
Then a couple of days later he asked if we wanted to go round for a brew in the afternoon, meet his wife etc. Being polite we said yes when we really wish we'd had an excuse... When we were there he offered us alcohol, i refused, then he went on saying 'one glass wont hurt' so had to explain i was 3mths pg, he said 'me and the mrs tried that but didn't work as i've had the snip did we really need to know that?? again the whole time we were there he kept going on about how much he loves kids, again tells us his own kids dont want to know him etc...
A week or so before xmas he invited us to their 'housewarming' and luckily it was on DS's bday so we had an excuse not to go... On DS's bday he comes round with a present and card for DS, thought it was nice of them, but didn't invite them in as we had a massive house-full at the time anyway.
On xmas day he knocks on the door and says 'i've got some presents for the DC's, but you'll have to come round and get them in a bit' DS had heard this so got all exited, said we'd pop round in a bit, when we went again all he was saying is how much he loves kids etc, went on to ask when i'm due etc, that they'll ahve to babysit when we go out, that they'll buy the baby a present....
I mean i know he sounds 'nice' and at first thats what we thoguht, but the only time he ever wants to speak to us he always says about babysitting etc. On xmas day i just laughed and said 'its ok, we've got plenty of babysitters thanks' and he hadn't spoken to us since really... until just now, he saw me struggling in the driveway, trying to get 2 kids to the front door and pull in the bins and he said 'oh your starting to struggle now aren't you, do you want me to take the kids in mine and look after them for a few hrs for you?' i declined and said i was fine thanks. I'm just a bit worried about his 'intentions'....
I mean we dont know this man at all and he's gone on and on about babysitting our DC's.... Am i reading too much into this? What would you do? DH also agree's that his behaviour is very wierd.... what can i do? If i should try and do anything? We bought the house 3 years ago and are just starting to properly make it our 'home'... and now he's moved next-door and i actually dread him being in his drive when i'm going out or something in case i have to confront him yet again. We're normally a very quiet family, keep ourselves to ourselves, as we live on a main rd its not the sort of street where neighbours socialise much or anything... Help me please???