Ok, to give you a bit of background - I separated from my husband about a year ago and now my daughters and I are living with my parents. Things with my parents are a bit difficult because my dad is an alcoholic but tensions are not as high as they were as I currently feel well.
I am bipolar and have had a very up-and-down year where at times I was suicidal. Earlier in the year got into an unsuitable relationship with a guy I met out one night, and in an unfortunate turn of events became pregnant after my copper IUD came out. I struggled for ages about what to do but have decided I couldn't abort.
At the moment I am stable mentally because of my pregnancy but under close supervision of my psychiatrist, especially when I deliver.
My daughters have been staying with their father and family in Wales over the Christmas period and yesterday they came home and I was trying to settle them - particularly my older dd who is 7 and has ASD. Dd2 was playing with one of her toys in the living room.
The doorbell rang and a friend of my parents was on the doorstep. This is someone who they were in regular contact with when I was a child, but who they have not seen very much in the last 7 years since her husband died as he was the closer friend. My parents had gone to Tescos and I assumed she would want to wait for them so I asked her in.
She walked in, rather unfriendly and then sat down and said nothing, just looking around for a few minutes.
Then she looked at me and said 'You and your children should not be here...'
She then launched into an attack on me about my pregnancy ('why are you having a baby you do not want?'), the fact my marriage failed and also said I had no right to send my dd to a private school (which my own parents are supportive of!) She said that it was all my fault (and then when I defended myself she denied that she had said it). She has probably seen me a handful of times in the last ten years and does not see my parents often. My mother does not even like her that much - she told me this.
At this point my children were upset and my dd said 'Mummy, why shouldn't we be here?'
I told her I was not prepared to discuss any of this with her, especially in front of my children because she was upsetting them - my older dd went to bed to try to shut it out. But she kept on and even followed me round the house, bullying me, saying she was going to phone social services and arrange for someone to take my baby away when it's born.
She finally left and when my parents got home they had no idea what had gone on and were bemused when I told them. Then she has been phoning our house since this morning
I was so drained by the whole incident and my children were upset for the rest of the evening which annoyed me because I wanted them to come back to a happy atmosphere.
If you were me, though what would you do if this woman verbally attacked you in the future? I am feeling vulnerable and as this is my children's home currently, I don't have anywhere to shield them if she comes round again. I have the stress of dd1's annual review coming up and the LA might try to take away my dd's provision.
What would you do?