Sorry for any offence caused

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I apologise to fellow mumsnetters if my post have offended anyone, That was not my intention

No harm in it but I agree with Croppy and Sml2 - all a bit grim and mostly sad...

Though actually I hear a lot of that sort of thing from my male work colleagues !

Well as I have said I will not do it again so there is no need for anyone to worry about inappropriate things being written.

Just for Mum2toby and the rest that enjoyed it though I am considering changing my mumsnet name to 'Themanthatcan' though.

I didn't find bits of the thread I read that offensive in themselves. But I did wonder if it would upset some others, especially those who have had an unfaithful partner. I can totally understand why some people complained.

I can't flirt for toffee, so reading it was a learning experience. But think this type of thread, ie one that goes on for days, sidelines what mumnsnet is all about.

Wish I had never bl**dy started it now, if I had realised what a row it would cause.

Mixedup is going to retire and go back to her old name, and no will not tell you who that is

I wish you hadn't said that mixedup...now I am curious as to who you are and I'm trying to be a detective and searching the boards to try and work you out. I'm meant to be working!

I didn't complain, but I did think the other thread entitled 'Almost make a huge mistake...' went a bit too far. It starts off with MixedUp having problems with her dh and fantasising about her ex, who has a girlfriend. A lot of members would probably emphasise with that, and there are a lot who have been cheated on who wanted to give advice too. When it got to describing sex toys in detail, and orgasms, I felt it was time to stop. It wasn't what the original thread was for and not everyone wants to know about vibrators, and what StuartC's partner looks like when she climaxes. It was a bit distasteful. Someone said you didn't have to view the thread, but there was nothing in the title to suggest what was really being discussed.

I didn't look at the flirting thread, but can see why members complained, it's a bit irrelevant to Mumsnet isn't it? We've discussed loads of things on these boards, but we've never had a flirting thread before. And if it reached the depths the other thread did, well no wonder it got complaints!

That being said though, it is nice to have a bit of fun with all this war and stuff on.

I've just peeked at the flirting thread out of curiosity - sorry guys but not very tasteful is it? Wonder if Ann Summer's has a discussion board for you all!

Lucy123, I too thought I'd missed a thread about new babies and was just about to post "WWW-what new baby??!!" until I read your post!!

That thread is completely different from flirting in real life,for a start the chances are that the people involved are never going to meet or even find out each others name, just because alot of people have problems (myself included) it does not mean for one second that I would not expect people to have a laugh and joke in my presence. And yes my dh DID find it amusing Scatterbrain and he would not be in the slightest bit offended if I had joined in on that thread, we are secure and know our limits. As for this not being suitable for this kind of forum, does that mean that everything has to be sensible and all about parenthood, problems and experiences, and no humour is allowed? I agree that a mountain has been made out of a molehill, and to all those who are offended, spare a though for those who like to have a bit of humour and harmless banter in their lives

I had to go and have a look at the thread after all this revolt...did not find it either amusing nor offending, just plain childish.

I don't come to Mumsnet for this kind of thread, but there have been others I din't like and I just usually steer clear of it.

I guess the only people who can have a say in what's allowed or not are the founders of mumsnet, they have created it and the know what they want it to be.

for myself I just don't look at these threads as I get nothing from them!

My mate was so amused by the original 'mistake' thread that she actually texted me to tell me to have a look! I thought it was hysterical, although I did fell a little sad as I have never used one of those things (better not start all that again )

I had a sneaky peak at the 'SH' thread, but because it was for someone specific, I didn't look much beyond the first couple of postings.

People have differing views on everything so I can see that some may find it tasteless or upsetting, but Mumsnet is great for this 'live and let live' reaction (mostly).

Another baby website (BW) accuses people of all sorts, lying, stupidity and it gets REALLY personal.

So let's keep the Mumsnet spirit, I say!

maybe mumsnet could put a sign on the threads that might offend people, so they won't want to read it, it is all done now and nothing anyone can do to take it back, maybe we should consider what we are writing, so not to offend.

Im sure this never used to happen, people getting offended by the slightest thing. If you dont like the look of the title dont read the thread. If you start reading it and dont like it change. Why is it some people want to stop others talking about stuff or having a laugh because it doesnt suit them.

This is one of the reasons I hardly ever comment anymore, always someone to offend. I dont care what people say, everyone has their own views.

With things as they are right now, surely a laugh is in order some way or another.

And if you are so hooked on Mumsnet that something like that seems to ruin your whole being, you do need to get a life.

I met Breeze today and she is really nice, and her dh too. She asked what I thought about Mumsnet and I told her I thought it was good but I dont really comment much because of risk of offending. I probably have done that in this message so I think I will disappear for a while and perhaps come back when things are better.

Enid, I will get tech to mail my e-mail address to you so we can keep in touch ref the two Alices.

I rarely post on any of the controversial threads either because I am amazed at how easily some people are offended. However, I giggled at the flirting threads and was a little envious....I have never mastered the art of flirting. Some of the double entendres were very witty.

I don't think any offense was meant by the people involved.I found it amusing and I was quite envious of the speed and humour in your replys ( I always was and still am an absolute dodo at flirting.)

However, it also brought a real heavy feeling to my stomach.I found many examples of just such flirting between my husband and numerous different women some months ago on our computer.Yes I know its just fun,I know you'll never meet,I know it means nothing but it hurts that he couldn't do that internet flirting with me.

My personnal view.

Thanks joe1, very nice of you, glad you didn't read this thread before you met me, you might have thought I was a man mad hussy or something.

Actually getting really offended, by some of you getting offended. Does that mean I can't start a soap thread now cause thats not about motherhood.
No I am not really getting offended, but it is making me chuckle. to all the ones that think it was funny, we have all worked with someone like these. I am quite proud of my flirting, it has got me out of speeding tickets, and replacement fuses for my car for free.

There are those who can (I'm one), those who can't and those who wish they could. Maybe the complainents can't. (I know a man who can )

I think that whole flirting thread was silly and childish and I have to say I agree with Carrie - give your emails to each other and do it in private. But then again, I know I didn't have to read it. But why should I have to avoid anything on mumsnet??

I used to post a lot on a music chat site years ago, and it slowly got taken over by people online flirting (and worse) until it got really horrible.

Maybe flirting online in front of others is part of the thrill! Also if it's in front of others it's less likely to be a serious flirtation, I personally would be more concerned if I found my dh flirting on his private e-mail with someone.

If women want to fling themselves, like lemmings running blindly off a cliff face, all over a smarmy and smug man, I suppose they should be allowed to get on with it.

Agree with croppy, sml2 and prufrock that it was a grim sight though.

Didn't complain and wasn't offended cos just stopped looking as soon as I realised what was going on. Just all seemed pretty tedious to me.

didn't complain. agree with sml, croppy, prufrock, enid and scummy.

Scummymummy