What would you do/how would you feel if...............

[chocolatemummy]

I am a studnet nurse, I started in september and we get a bursary while studying. I spend most of my time with a small group including two girls seemed lovely. We spend a lot of time together at uni when were in (most week days). My bursary came two weeks after starting my course in septmeber but several other people were waiting and waiting as there was a huge backlog.The two girls had no money and their bursaries were just not coming, I went to the one girls room(she lives in halls) and she didnt even have any food and was just eating at different peoples rooms most nights, no TV or anything. Basically I loaned her £100 to get a kettle,cups, saucepans, food etc and toiletries and a couple of books we had to get for our course. The other girl I loaned £200 because she wanted to get a laptop when the uni had a sale on (one day only, reconditioned computers sale thingy for new students) The first girl got her bursary through two weeks ago and has not paid me back yet despite me loaning he the money three months ago now! and the second girl got hers last week and promised to pay me back last friday with it being xmas and I have not heard from her I am totally skint and feel really upset

oh that is really awful choc. You need to see the pair of them and ask outright for the money today. It wont be embarassing, just say you need to do your xmas shopping and can you have it back now please.

They cannot say no.

Feel for you though, as our act of kindness looks like it has gone unnoticed.

I cant because they have both gone home for christmas now, different parts of the country, I feel really stupid and my husband is going mad at me. the first one called me and asked for my bankl details and promised it would be in my bank before christmas but its not yet? the second one wont answer her phone I CANNOT afford to lose £320 which is the total, do you think the uni would get involved if they dont pay me back?

oh god. I don't know what the uni would do to be honest.

Surely they are not going to run away with the dosh as they have to face you next term. Maybe text them both and ask the one who has said she will pay it it, what time as you are at the shops and it is not in the account yet?

The second one should be getting texts non stop if you were me.
I am really rather angry on your behalf here.

I just feel really dissapointed, especially with the second one because we have become quite close I THOUGHT and she knows that we are skint ourselves. I have sent her about 4 text messages since friday, (when she was suposed to give it back to me) and have called her twice and left one voicemail. I am not begging for my own f***g money do you know what i mean?
I just dont know whats wrong with people

BUMP, come one people need some TLC and practical ideas/advice??/
thing is, my husband only knows about the second one,I fel such a twat

I used to work at a university and a couple of our students got into this situation.

There wasn't anything official we could do, like dock the borrower's student grant or withhold his exam results, but we certainly spoke very sternly to him about it and his responsibilities as an adult.

I'd ring the borrowers from a public phone or another number they won't recognise and tell them that if they don't repay you immediately, you will have to raise the matter with your tutor (who is responsible for your pastoral care, which includes your financial circumstances).

Our student repaid the money, btw. I think we basically embarrassed him into doing so.

oh glad someone else has come along with some good advice. Am wondering if you should put this in 'chat' as lots of people hide various topics and it may not be very prominent.

One more thing: tell the one who lives in halls that you'll have to talk to the warden about it, as well as her tutor.

Thing is, I hang around with them both, the second on in particular and its sad that I would have to do that and go back in january and prob not be talking. what a nightmare. I tried to call her from my home phone which is exdirectory but it went onto answer maching and I left a voicemail basically saying that "I am shocked she did not turn up and really need the money back and I Atleast deserve a response"

start thread again you mean or can I change to chat?

start the thread again. dont know if it is possible to move it.

Do you have their home numbers? It's one thing to call their mobiles but if they think you might mention it to their parents about their debts, they might suddenly bump you right up their list of financial priorities.

going to move thread to chat.see you there

choclatemummy, as a last resort I would involve either your year leader, tutor or similar.
Having just finished my nursing degree I know how serious they take things (like signing in for lectures then going home) as its a reflection on your personality and the professions youre joining (e.g. if these girls are willing to 'borrow' from a friend are they really the kind of people we need in nursing surrounded by equipment, drugs and patients property??)

Good luck