is revenge o.k in this scenario? feeling a teeny weeny bit daring!!!!!!! O.k I'm really fecking furious because my poor little darling has been scared stiff by santa today

[pellmell]

A few weeks ago poor dd2 aged 3 was completely bloody traumatised by the villageidiot clown, who decided it was funny to pretend to push dd's little torch through his ear and create a huge lump on the top of his head!!! F*ING idiot(he has an egg shaped cyst on his scalp)

She shook like I've never seen and screeched with fear.
As I comforted her I asked him to tell her he was joking and show her the torch but he laughed and kept it up for a bit longer.....

Moving on to today, he has elected to be the santa on the little float that goes around collecting for charity.
Someone knocked on the door , we looked out and there he was waving from atop the float!

Obviously I don't really want revenge.....
but what a dick head!

OMG poor man! He has some sort of disfigurement that he's making light of, and you are allowing (and encouraging??) your DD to be freaked out by it?

[fgin] making light of with a torch [fgin]
i'd throw poo at him from behind the garden wall.

don't understand your OP

what scared DD? What did he do wrong, exactly? Why shouldn't he dress up as Santa as well?

no no no....the disfigurement is not the issue at all. Sorry if that came over in the op.
Really I sincerely mean that as we also have a severely disabled child and dd2 is more used to and comfortable with those with all kinds of conditions including facial disfigurements.
The fear was the fact that he could put her toy in his ear (all be it pretend) and cause this huge lump that she had no idea was there befor. After all I think it's reasonable for a child so young to think that that was a scary concept..no?
The bit that annoyed me so much was that he enjoyed her being scared and did not feel it better to bring the joke to a swift end.
The bit about the santa was really to say what bad bloody luck it was that dd had the image of the toy lodged in brain joke now extending in to "santa is that man that scared you with that silly joke!"
Oh dear, I wasn't clear was I!

yes it does sound as though he got it wrong, and pushed the 'joke' too far anyway, but then again children can be scared by all kinds of things and if he wasn't great at reading her response maybe he didn't realise she was really scared?

also just to clarify....he is a joker and not a clown or villageidiot
Just a bloke in his forties whose mission in life is to wind up and carry out practical jokes, all in good humour (when appropriate )
He just happens to have a lump on his head and would certainly not consider himself to be a poor bloke.

actually from your further description he sounds like someone to avoid, like that character from the Fast Show (was it?) who was constantly telling jokes in the office and wearing funny ties.

If he was enjoying scarng your DD, then yes he was a twat. I honestly don;t think she'll permanently associate The Real Santa with him though.

FWIW I'd probably have tried to undermine the scariness by getting your DD to have a good look at the "trick". (Although I realise that my DD might be more amenable to that than yours, and that the joker might not have made that easy for you anyway).

Oh, we all know some complete pillocks don't we?
...you know the type that think it's funny to fart in your face or superglue a coin to the floor and tell a child "there's a quid there mate"....

madamantlers...yes you are right, that is the first thing I did and she did get what I was saying, however it rears it's ugly head (no pun intended) now and again in as much as she will say "I didn't like it when that man scared me" etc

OMG I haven't done that coin gag for such a long time!

Yep. He's a twat.

I'm sorry your little girl had to go through that.