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Upset by gingerbread man incident...probably irrational..

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Gobbledigook · 24/03/2005 21:19

We had friends over today to play at our house. Children present were four 4 year olds, one 2.5 yr old, one 14 month old, one 10 month old, one 7 month old.

One of the mothers brought gingerbread men - big ones with chocolate feet and hands and smarties for buttons - she brought one for all the 4 yr olds but left out the 2.5 yr old (and obviously the smaller ones though I think I'd have brought one for the 14 month old personally). All the 4 yr olds go to nursery together (a sessional morning nursery) but so does the 2.5 yr old so he is friends with all the 4 yr olds and certainly old enough to manage a gingerbread man!

He watched as she handed them out saying 'yes, please' and then burst into tears, understandably, when he didn't get one.

The 2.5 yr old is my little boy and I was the host and it broke my heart. I know, I'm probably being very oversensitive about nothing but I thought it was very mean to leave him out like that. How did she expect him to react?

Rant over now - thanks for reading this far in my rather pathetic tale!! It really upset me though as I didn't know what to say to him. Luckily my other ds broke his up and shared it with him as did one of the other boys (not the child of the gingerbread bearer).

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Pinotmum · 25/03/2005 10:23

That has made be nearly cry COuldn't she have brought something else for the younger ones, not just left them out. How odd of her. My ds is 2y6mo and would have cried as well. I could understand if she was a childless woman but she has children of her own fgs.

flamesparrow · 25/03/2005 10:31

Awwwww!

That was like DD and Psycho's son at toddlers the other day - we have only just started going, so we weren't there when they did the pictures for the easter contest.

Last day of term, and they came in to hand out packets of milky buttons to all those who entered - and they weren't going to give any to my two!!! DD is only 21 months, PS is not 3 yet. The woman then said that they could have a packet TO SHARE!!!

DD got very very upset - she'd seen everyone else getting their own packs, she didn't want to share with Jacob.

Its not their fault that I didn't take them before now.

People don't seem to realise that toddlers understand lots!!!

emmatmg · 25/03/2005 10:32

What was she thinking?

I'm at the complete other end of the spectrum and would have got something for all of them. You'd be posting that "Ugghh that bloody woman and her chocolate buttons for my 7 months"

Now, I blame my Ds2 but when Ds3 was 7 months he could recognised the Cadburys logo. Ds2 would be riding on the buggy board and ds3 in the pram so that they were facing each other, I have no idea how much chocolate the poor boy had without me realising.

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Gobbledigook · 25/03/2005 10:38

LOL Emma! Must admit ds3 (7 months) does watch with great interest when the other 2 get buttons!! Bless him!

Yes, I still think it's mean today after I've slept on it so wasn't overreacting! Ahhh, his poor little face.

Flamesparrow - - you'd have thought they'd have brought extra packets for ones who'd be there and didn't enter!! I can't believe that.

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Surfermum · 25/03/2005 10:42

Dd, now 22m, started on chocolate at Christmas because we just couldn't fob her off any longer with a raisin or rice cake, and she wanted what she saw everyone else having. It would have been heartbreaking for me to see her being left out.

I would have done the same as emma and got something for everyone, a farleys bear biscuit for the little one or something. How can you leave any of them out? I just don't get it.

JoolsToo · 25/03/2005 10:49

I can just imagine ds2's face he's a food fiend!

I can she see she may not have thought at the time but should have suggested sharing when she realised there wasn't enough to go round.

Anyway whats her address I'll be needing some new plants from her

pixiefish · 25/03/2005 10:51

for you gdg

fisil · 25/03/2005 10:52

Poor ds - that's really cruel.

At 8 months pg I'd have cried for ds - and me, what about my gingerbreadman?

LGJ · 25/03/2005 10:54

What a brainless woman,

You are not overreacting, I am so mad I can't even think what I would have done.

One or two things have crossed my mind, not sure they are legal.

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Gobbledigook · 25/03/2005 11:29

LOL LGJ!

I would have brought something for everyone too but at 2.5 yrs he could have had a gingerbread man couldn't he! I cannot understand what made her only buy for the 4 yr olds. Really, really odd.

Plants have perked up a bit now JT! BTW, are you staying for a roast on Sunday?

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marthamoo · 25/03/2005 12:31

What a rotten horrible woman - feel really aggrieved for your ds. Next time she comes over get some really gorgeous cream cakes for all the Mums and don't give her one. I hope she cries. Grrrrrr.

marthamoo · 25/03/2005 12:32

I've got some gingerbread men - can I post you some ?

JoolsToo · 25/03/2005 15:10

GDG - do I read the Daily Mail?!

JanH · 25/03/2005 15:13

Don't you two have phones?

JoolsToo · 25/03/2005 15:15

this is cheaper

motherinferior · 25/03/2005 15:18

Good grief, the idea of my 20-month dd2 being denied a gingerbread man makes the blood run cold (think nuclear missile/erupting volcano)What a twit! Poor little ds2!

MM vg cream cake suggestion.

JoolsToo · 25/03/2005 15:27

moo - post them to me - I'll make sure she gets them

NomDePlume · 25/03/2005 15:31

oh gdg, i'd been gutted too. In fact I'd have been tempted to say 'perhaps we shouldn't give these out now, as it'll upset ', that's what i would've done. mean old cow.

moondog · 25/03/2005 15:32

Silly thoughtless cow!!!
I would have felt exactly the same.
And messing up the house to boot!!
That's her off the Christmas card list then eh?

Honestly, I want to murder people when my children are hard done by. Went out for a walk on Wednesday with a friend and her rather ...er...boisterous dd, who delights in pushing, pulling,thumping and manhandling my gentle rather dreamy dd. The final straw was her grabbing something my dd was palying with. The kid's mother rushed up, demanded that her daughter say 'sorry' and my dd got the wrong end of the stick and said 'Sorry' in a sad little voice.
Her kid just stood there smirking.(She never did insist on an apology. )
Silly, I know, but I don't really want to have her over again (and last time she came, she snuck upstairs and dragged lots of my fragile special things off bookshelves and hid them in the trunk in my dd's room.

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Gobbledigook · 25/03/2005 15:44

MD - other people's kids eh? And sometimes worse - their bloody parents!!! Do they have no control?

I am soooo glad none of you think I was being a right saddo!! My stomach was churning as I knew she didn't have one for him and he was following her over to the others saying 'yes, please'

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moondog · 25/03/2005 15:46

I know that churning stomach feeling. Give him a big kiss and a hug from all us lot! XXX

dinny · 25/03/2005 15:51

poor little man! how can she have thought a 2.5 year old wouldn't want what the others were having. gggrgrgrrrrrr. don't worry, he won't remember it (hopefully!)

Blossomhill · 25/03/2005 15:51

I learnt very quickly to avoid certain people and stopped having children round, it's too stressful!

Socci · 25/03/2005 15:54

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aloha · 25/03/2005 16:19

She sounds a loon! Poor little boy. My lad would have been devastated in the same situation. Grrrr.

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