Having problem with MIL's help

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My MIL is staying for a few weeks & over Xmas. Get on really well with her & enjoying her company. But ... she's offering to help around the house and I've realised her standards are definately lower than they used to be. I'm having to go behind her to redo cleaning, ironing without her noticing. DH has asked me to include her so she doesn't feel as if she's sitting around doing nothing. But don't feel I can say anything to him as he adores his mum. Apart from being careful with jobs I give, any suggestions? Or do I just accept and get on with it.

Redo ironing?

Think it's probably an accept and get on with it one. Otherwise feelings will be hurt. Annoying though.

accept and get on with it, some cleaning is better than none

can she do easy things like dusting?

and dont redo ironing unless its really that bad, i never iron anything

could she also help by looking after children while you clean? or helping prepare meals?

Just accept and get on with it. Try to give her opportunities to do fun things like playing with/reading to dcs while you do the more "strenuous" tasks.

Get her to iron all the things you wouldn't normally bother with
Or say you would love to have a couple of uninteruppted hours to do some chores and could she sit and do a craft activity with the DC while you do it

accept her help and smile sweetly

i would weep with gratitude if someone did my ironing

Somehow the clothes looked better un-ironed. I don't want to be ungrateful. Good idea to get her to do something with the DC's - she's very patient at games and colouring in. Far better than I am. Also my 2 teenage DD's are off in a couple of days so perhaps they could take out Nana to buy all those last minute things we forget.

I fondly remember my childhood playing ludo/snap/old maid etc with my grandparents while my Mum and Dad were busy in the kitchen. It's fantastic if she's patient at that. She sounds like a treasure!

Send her round to my house??

I've got the opposite problem - I'm a scummy mummy and MIL had worked as a cleaner all her life and has far higher standards . When I know she's coming round we go mad cleaning like demons and I still worry she'll say something. She never really does bless her