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What is going on at the moment?

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rickman · 22/03/2005 12:17

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Evesmama · 23/03/2005 21:48

i think the initial post was meant that Rickman was saddend by the amount of Mnetters feeling so bad lately and wondered why?, i dont think it was intended to mean anything bad

lockets · 23/03/2005 21:53

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Dior · 23/03/2005 21:55

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lockets · 23/03/2005 21:56

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dinny · 23/03/2005 21:56

thank goodness people have MN as an outlet. so cruel to dismiss people's problems as monotonous.

whatsername · 23/03/2005 21:57

Yeah well I'm pretty peeved at the suggestions that I'm attention seeking, monotonous, and posting only to benefit financially, etc.

The point I was trying to make was that I am a long term member, but apparently only useful if I'm being cheerful.

I genuinely came on here for support at a time when the alternative was to slit my wrists, seriously, wanna see the scars?

whatsername · 23/03/2005 21:58

Thanks Dior and all the others from the other night, your support really meant a huge amount to me. It's a huge comfort to me to know that there are people here who don't begrudge that.

mummylonglegs · 23/03/2005 21:59

I can't answer your original question rickman, but in relation to what some other people have said here, I think depression is at least as real, as 'monotonous' (for the sufferer as much as the listener), as agonisingly all-consuming as every single subject discussed on MN time and time again. It is totally possible to not read any of the depression threads if you don't want to in just the same way that you can avoid reading about 'green poo' or controlled crying. What one has to be very careful about however is that the people posting on depression threads are in a very vulnerable position and to criticise their reaching out for help is potentially dangerous. So, if you don't like these posts, more than any other posts, it has to be best to keep your opinion to yourself.

dinny · 23/03/2005 21:59

Whatsername, just ignore those with such little empathy if you can. Not everyone is like that. And keep posting .

lockets · 23/03/2005 22:00

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sansouci · 23/03/2005 22:01

WHAT!? haven't read the thread but am so shocked that I'll do it after this post... how DARE anyone suggest that whatsername or anyone else in trouble is posting for anything other than support? I'm truly shocked and I thought I was a confirmed cynic & totally unshockable. Really, you MNers should be ashamed of yourselves.

No, darling, I don't need to see your scars. I've read them. Hugs & support to you always.

Evesmama · 23/03/2005 22:03

dont worry whatsername, we're all here to help eachother out when we have no one else to speak to about the matter or too ashamed to speak to anyone in RL.
you keep posting and ill keep answering and pleasetry to summon up the courage to speak to you HV, mine really helped me out and assigned a psychittric nurse to me who is a godsend

keep smiling hun

Evesmama · 23/03/2005 22:05

and i know how hard it is to find any good or look on 'the brightside' when you are at your lowest..as im sure a lot of others have..so we can keep eachothers heads above water

Dior · 23/03/2005 22:06

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whatsername · 23/03/2005 22:21

Thanks you guys, I know I shouldn't let these comments get to me. I think it's the timing - this thread appearing 2 days after the first and only time I'd chosen to pour my heart out. I'm feeling very vulnerable at the moment, and have taken some of these comments personally. Should be hardened enough to Mumsnet by now I guess.

Titania · 23/03/2005 22:23

whatsername i feel the same

lockets · 23/03/2005 22:25

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sansouci · 23/03/2005 22:26

Have now read the thread & condemn anyone who would deny support to someone who needs it. We all know that motherhood is not easy! As the saying goes "If you don't like the heat, stay out of the kitchen." Likewise, if "depression" threads bring you down or you don't understand them, don't read them! Be grateful instead that you have never had to go through the hell that depression is.

sansouci · 23/03/2005 22:28

I am here, for what it's worth. If and when I need you, I am so grateful to know that you are there for me, also.

MaidoftheRiver · 23/03/2005 22:31

Hi Whatsername, am new to this so bear with me. You have received support here which you have needed, for clarity and for your general wellbeing. Why this needs to be questioned is nothing less than unthoughtful. I don't believe this was the intention, nevertheless clearly some seem to have a very unsympathetic view of those with real problems. Woopy doo for them, and how wonderful their lives must be, realistically though all I can see is a way of being able to vent frustrations, concerns and desperation in a safe environment. Why anyone should have a 'problem' with this is beyond me. Yes maybe such posts are more frequent at the moment, but so what?? be grateful it isn't you, and remember there are many people here that would support you in your hour of need, god forbid it should ever happen. Take care xxxxxxxxxxx

whatsername · 23/03/2005 22:40

What I appreciate about MN is that there are so many lovely people here who will actually put themselves out for effective strangers. It has been a real support to me over the years and never more than over the last couple of days.

The unfortunate thing is that when you are low, it tends to be the very few negative comments which can have a big impact and be the ones you remember.

If you've never been through depression then that's fantastic, but I think it is very difficult to relate to how truly awful it is. It's not a case of being a bit down, it is really crippling.

Toothache · 23/03/2005 22:43

MaidoftheRiver - I really don't think that was what was implied with this thread. Just that it's worrying that so many Mumsnetters feel so low that they are contemplating suidicide. I've been there, but I didn't have MN then. I haven't read the whole thread coz it's huge....so maybe I'm missing the posts you are referring to.

Personally I think that it's a positive sign that those who have felt suicidal thoughts have been able to post them here even if there is noone in RL to talk to. At least there is something and if that can stop people taking the step further than just talking about suicide then it's a fantastic step!

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rickman · 23/03/2005 22:44

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MaidoftheRiver · 23/03/2005 22:46

Toothache I completely agree with all you have said but there are some pretty unsympathetic comments, which may may be tongue in cheek but all the same do exist and i feel are unecessary, and can make potentially low feeling people feel even worse. Just don't see the point in it really

whatsername · 23/03/2005 22:47

Rickman, it wasn't your comments I was referring to. You were one of the ones whose support I really appreciated. It's just that some of the posts on this thread have been rather less sympathetic in tone. Maybe I'm being oversensitive, but it wasn't you I was talking offence at.